Divorcing a depressed husband HELP

[Redheadedmum]

First ever post. I need some honest advice.

I have been with my husband 14 years (married 4). He has always suffered from depression and anxiety but maintained it with medicine and counselling.

We had a baby boy 1 year ago. Just before he was born my husband stopped his treatment (but didn't tell me). The last year has been hell with suicidal threats, anger and becoming his emotional punching bag. I've had to deal with so much while becoming a first time mum. Recently I've involved his family's help and he is now trying to curve his anger and is thinking about going back on medication.

However I'm still so tense and my self esteem is so low due to a year of all his anger and criticism. I don't think I love him anymore and I'm deeply unhappy around him.

Should I break up our family or hold out in the hope he gets help and I can feel what I use to feel for him?

I'm really sorry to hear this OP.

I made a similar decision once. What helped me was counselling and the book Too bad to stay too good to leave.

Once I realised his MH problems (or rather how he coped with them) had changed me as a person I knew I had to go.

I once divorced an alcoholic.

Like a PP says: you have to consider the impact their issues will have forever on your family.

Hi
I am in a similar situation. My husband suffers with health problems ( Arthritis) and uses alcohol as medication for it( as well as prescribed medicine). I have been married 25 yrs. He developed arthritis 14 yrs ago. He used me to drop and collect him from the pub ( 1/3 mile away) . This wasted my evening a pick up time was usually 9.30- 10.00. He has picked up 2 women at the pub at different times and either been sexually intimate with them or had full sex. He denies it all and calls me paranoid/ loopy etc. Unsure about leaving him but realised I need to in the next 6 months.
Otherwise I feel I have wasted my life on this man