What kind of wedding do you have and do you regret spending the money ?

[Lardlizard]

Or if you have a budget wedding do you wish you had spent more ?

25+ years ago. Married in my Church, then sit down meal and more friends joined us in the evening for some dancing. Was fairly standard for the time.
Can't remember the cost now - we had lots of people who did things for us (flowers, drove us etc) so, even if we could translate into today's prices, it would have been cheap for that type of wedding, though of course we could have spent less if we'd not had 80 odd people to the day and a further 40 or so come in the evening.
Back then, you paid the photographer to come to the service and photos afterwards - they didn't start the day when you got up and take photos of you at home, and didn't generally stay for the evening. In fact we "Fake cut" the cake before the meal so he could get one of that and then went home - so that is several 'hours of labour' that used to be cheaper. Didn't have 'chair covers' or 'favours' or provide flip flops or photo booths or any of that stuff that piles on the cost nowadays

I don't regret it at all - look back very fondly on my wedding day. I'm glad we didn't spend more than we did but I'm glad we were able to share the day with so many friends and family.

We got engaged this August and married in October. Nine weeks and about £3k.

I wouldn’t change a thing.

We spent a lot. Big white wedding in a church, then full dinner for 80 guests in a five start hotel. No expense spared.

If I had my time over, I’d love if the two of us had just slipped off quietly to a registry office and then had a small meal for immediate family somewhere fabulous and quirky.

I don’t regret it because of the cost, but it just wasn’t very “us”.

I wish I’d spent more on photography. Every thing else perfect despite being rustic / budget but if only we had more comprehensive photos to remind us of the day.

We had a big wedding (136 guests) and I don't regret a penny of it. My parents and PILs gave us money towards it and I'm sure they don't regret it either. I guess we could have cut the guest list a bit, as there are some people we've not stayed in touch with, but obviously you can't predict that at the time.

£7k total, Dh and I flew to Vegas, got married and had a reception when we came home (using the booking we had originally made for our actual wedding before we changed our minds and decided to just bugger off and do it our way) not a single regret (bar the photographer at the reception, she seems to have got me frowning or mid conversation in every photo)

Registry office and steak dinner at local restaurant for 13 or our very closest family. My husbands suit was the most expensive part at £120
I had fallen in love with W lovely 1950's style dress but the day we booked the wedding we found out we were pregnant. Waited 10 years for the wedding so wasn't going to postpone. Ended up with a floaty long dress to accommodate the 6 month bump, still wouldn't change a thing though!

We had the traditional 90's big white wedding (just coming up after Christmas on our 25th anniversary).

Church (but it wasn't just a church, I'd gone there since I was 12 and the minister was a family friend), big 100 seat meal in country house hotel, evening ceilidh with 60 more people.

I didn't pay, dh and I were 24, he was still a medical student and I was in my first year of teaching. My dad did nearly all of it, DMil paid for flowers, fil for cars, I bought my own dress (well, paid one of my best friends to make it).

If we were getting married now we'd have a much more relaxed ceremony and then a really chill reception (we even once decided where!)

So our wedding today would be really different than it was 25 years ago. It's been interesting as my best friend gets married in April and it's so not what we did, but very much what we'd do now (though we would have considerably more drink!!!).

I don't regret my wedding for a second. How could I, I'm married to the Love Of My Life!

Ours was about 10k all in and that included the honeymoon. We had a fair sized wedding at a country hotel. 50 people during the day and another 30 in the evening. Got a very good deal on the venue, wedding dress was on sale and honeymoon was on sale through Expedia.
I don't regret spending any of the money but I certainly wouldn't have wanted to spend any more.

£8,000 church wedding, tithe barn reception, paid friend to do flowers, made invitations, cake stand, cake and dress ourselves, bought our own wine, about 80 guests I think. It was good, very us, and nice to do the traditional thing. On balance I don't think I would have regretted spending less and doing something smaller, but I might have regretted spending more. Honestly, spending £40 a head on friends and acquaintances dinner some of whom didn't even bother to attend was not really worth it. And life gets so expensive once you have a family that the money seems excessive and could have gone towards the mortgage!

We had registry office wedding and had a pub reception, we paid for everything monthly and spent around 1800, we were happy with that and people enjoyed themselves

We eloped to New York just the two of us then had a party when we got back. I loved it the wedding day was all about us it was amazing and the party was one of the best nights ever. I get why people do the big white wedding and I love going to them but never wanted one myself

We had the wedding my mum wanted which was fine by me. It wasn't worth falling out over. I wanted a church and a party, but not necessarily a 3 course meal in a hotel. I would have loved a curry van in a field. Mostly I just wanted to be married, and was delighted that 90 people were happy to celebrate with me.
£7 for 90 people, with meal, evening buffet, drinks, outfits, disco etc. etc. Also a honeymoon abroad, but not luxury at all. Seemed like a good deal. Especially as both sets of parents contributed a bit, so we didn't pay that much. Then got generous gifts. We were lucky to have friends do a lot, like photography, cars, cake. But also I wasn't that fussed about it. I did my own make up and hair.
Don't regret any of it, though for years £800 on a dress felt really extravagant. Now it seems fine as everything else was so reasonable.

£7k not £7!

We had a very budget wedding. Was fabulously cheap but full of love and laughter. We went on a luxurious honeymoon though!

We had a v. small family wedding at a tiny stone church, so just our parents & my 4 yr son, plus Vicar. No big white dress (been there done that) but very romantic & special (I thought).
I had been married before & not keen to repeat the stresses associated with planning seating & catering for 100+ guests etc, my DH was a bachelor & he wanted to elope - so this was our compromise.
Cost - a few hundred $$ I think from memory, for the dinner meal we hosted our family at home with. Dress I had made myself for another occasion so rewore. It wasnt white, but browny floral - early 1980's era

100+ people (big extended families / DH v social), at DH’s and my mother’s wishes! I would have far preferred something much, much smaller and cheaper!

Sandals resort in the Caribbean just me and DH. Completely stress free. Staff at the resort were our witnesses and planned everything. Basically just a 10 day amazing holiday where we happened to get married. No regrets whatsoever.

Which one?
First wedding was the big white 70s church wedding with around 120 guests..most mum and dads and pils friends and relatives.
Didn’t cost that much..was the 70 s after all.
I wasn’t very well and found it rather stressful.
Second wedding was a registry office with just four friends and was surprisingly lovely and stress free. I think it cost about £120
Third wedding was in the beach in Tenerife with all my children, partners and grandchildren and a few friends from home .
Was lovely.
So chilled and laid back. Weather perfect
About 28 degrees at 7 pm at night. Dress was lovely but cheap as chips..about £28
Went to the zoo on the morning, came back for lunch had shower and did my own make up hair and nails as did all the women

I paid for my ten family members to have a week in 4 star hotel all expenses paid.and my dh paid for us..we were going anyway

Cost about £7k for everything

Church, reception with a 3 course meal, buffet, DJ, karaoke (had to!), the whole shebang. Did it on a budget for about £4K. My parents bought my dress and we had a little inheritance from DH's grandad. I wouldn't change a thing, it was perfect

Oh we had about 60 or 70 day time guests and 20 more evening guests or thereabouts

Actually funnily enough today is our 1st anniversary

We had a big fat Indian wedding with 450 guests costing around £70k.

Don't regret the wedding at all, was lovely and very relaxed despite the size. Would change guest list though as 50 or so of them were the inlaws friends who neither DH or I knew

Registry office then buffet at my place. Wouldn't have had it any other way (though I would have given the butter for the salmon terrine longer to soften).

We got married on out own, no guests, at a glorious hotel in the Lakes. Had a fab photographer, proper dress and a stunning bouquet. Stayed there for 5 days. Spent about £3k inc platinum rings.
No regrets!! Family were furious but got over it (apart from MIL)