Creepy loser step FIL

[Pizzaaddict]

I have a four day old, my partners mother and her weirdo partner are coming to meet the baby today. Dreading it as I am breastfeeding and when I had my last baby he openly looked at me when I tried to feed. I had to go in the other room, but why the hell should I have to? I had a section and I don’t want to climb the stairs just because he is a perv.

He is odd, never speaks and has a general creepy air. Partner says nothing. My mum is here and will say something but what? I don’t want to openly say to him “stop looking at me” because My partners mum will no doubt go mad at any criticism of her supposed stud muffin toyboy (ha, he is foul in reality).

Don’t know why I’m even posting just moaning. Had so many visitors I don’t want, house is a tip, my nipples feel like they have been attacked with a cheese grater, and we hve a mouse problem with the cleverest mice in Essex who avoid every sort of trap/bait.

You just don't like him, do you? Perfectly understandable. Why does your dp's mother have to bring him? He probably doesn't want to come anyway. Just tell her you don't like him and you'd rather he stayed away.

Err, no!

Your partner tells his mum that you are very tired and you BOTH only want her to visit right now.

If she pushes it, your DP tells her straight out that you don't want him watching you feed like last time.

congratulations for your new arrival.

this is the time you and baby come first and DP's job is to deal with everything else, fending off unwelcome visitors for you is part of that including telling his DM to come alone or some straight talking to her if necessary. You've got a newborn and just had major abdominal surgery, your needs top the feelings of MIL and some leery bloke she has in tow.

If your DM says something about/to him, leave her to it. That's outside your control and just other people's static.

Tell him not to stare if your partner won’t do. Hopefully that’ll stop him.