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Anyone fancy cheering me up by telling me how they met their DH after having no/crappy luck dating wise?

42 replies

TheWeirdoBeaconShinesStrong · 29/11/2019 20:27

OLD so far

  • saw a friend's husband
  • met a mild stalker
  • felt crap about myself
  • was 'liked' by a strange number of farmers
  • went on several mediocre dates

Please MNers, tell me that I'll meet someone nice and get married and have babies.

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 29/11/2019 20:36

I did! Grin I won't bore you with my life story, but when I had just about despaired of ever meeting a nice man, I was on my way to the toilet in a club when a bloody great lump got in my way. I said something along the lines of "move or I will pee on your feet" and 20 years and three children later, here we are... Grin

grabbp · 29/11/2019 20:42

Ahhhh can I join?! Purely because I want to read people's stories Grin

My and my husband met through OLD and have a toddler and another child on the way

firsttimebuyer20 · 29/11/2019 20:47

I'd just gone through another messy break up, when I was offered a new job.
Jumped at the chance, as an opportunity to get stuck into something new and help take my mind off the ex. Who was I introduced to on my first day there? My future DH Smile

That was 8 years ago, married with 2 DD's now!

Bessiebigpants · 29/11/2019 20:56

I met DP online went on a trillion first dates Significant number with functioning alcoholics Genuinely not really looking for the one! Dp was having none of my fwb nonsense and wore me down mostly by popping over to just "Do a little job" that was bothering him in my house He is exactly what I needed and would never have consciously chosen We are happy and perfect for each other I guess I'm saying don't look for a type Look for someone that gives you what you need not necessarily what you think you want

Busybeebeebee · 29/11/2019 20:59

I was going through a messy divorce at the age of 30 and had a 2 and 3 year old I was single parenting.
Took a Friday night job at a local pub.
Son of the landlord and I used to chat at the end of shift (he had been single for years and shared my hatrid of the dating scene) as he lived there and it turned out I was going on a date via OLD with his best mate. Luckily that date never happened in the end due to work commitments.

Long story short, the landlords son is now my husband and we are due our first child together any day now.
He’s an amazing step father to my children and I trust him entirely. He makes me feel like the most amazing human every day. To the point it’s actually quite cringe.
Your Mr Right is out there!

StCharlotte · 29/11/2019 21:05

DH and I first met at a mutual friend's wedding in our 20s but both of us were with other people. Ten years on, both single, he was bemoaning being single to the same mutual friend who gave him my number. We were married nine months later. Don't lose hope OP Smile

Baloonphobia · 29/11/2019 21:05

I'd given up. I was actually very happy being single. I went to a wedding on my own and met him in the smoking area. And that was it.

Lima45 · 29/11/2019 21:07

Single for 4 years following disastrous break up. Went shopping with my friend.

Crossing road I didn't see a (massive) pothole and managed to turn my ankle.

We hobbled to the nearest pub. Future DP was in there with his brother. Friend knew them vaguely and we gatecrashed their table.

Been together 13 years now. 1 DD

CloudPop · 29/11/2019 21:08

Not my story but a friend of mine met her husband at a mainline station when there were no trains running and they got chatting in the general melee of working out what they could all do

doleritedinosaur · 29/11/2019 21:08

At a comic con waiting to meet a Doctor.
Kept annoying me, I saved him a seat for a talk & had our first date that night.

Engaged with 3 kids, 6 years later.
I was adamantly single & was finishing a degree. Finished it pregnant.

Elbels · 29/11/2019 21:08

I asked him where the toilets were at a random event we were both at but shouldn't have been at (both nearly didn't turn up). Not quite a Shakespearean sonnet to open with!

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TheWeirdoBeaconShinesStrong · 29/11/2019 21:08

Ah these are nice. I'd be happy with MrRightForNow in the absence of Mr Right. Sadly only seeming to meet Messrs Never Ever

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Ihaveflees · 29/11/2019 21:12

Another one that was happy being single, but met my DP via a FB group, arranged to meet by the toilets of a venue - the rest is history!

SouthWestmom · 29/11/2019 21:13

Friend and I stopped off in a club on the way home, saw dh and felt this really weird must talk to him thing - not even if fancy him' just it was imperative we spoke.
Little did I know it was because he was the future father of my kids.

FlamingoAndJohn · 29/11/2019 21:17

I bought something from him in a shop. We then got talking about other items in the same genre. (I’m being deliberately obtuse here). I made an excuse to go back in and buy something else.

Married 17 years.

OhioOhioOhio · 29/11/2019 21:17

Posting for Hope.

Besidesthepoint · 29/11/2019 21:21

I had just vowed to not date for a year because I was fed up of weirdos when I went to a reunion and fell in love with DH. Very cliche, I know.

Pipandmum · 29/11/2019 21:24

Introduction agency. Relatively high joining fee which I suppose needed out the people just looking for a hook up. They interviewed everyone in person. They didn't match you up you saw peoples profikes and then sent yours to whomever and if they liked it they could call you. Met 13 nice guys, became friends with one, dated two for about six weeks, one one night stand and one I saw a few times and quite liked but not mutual. Then I met my husband! I was his first date.
My tip would be go old fashioned (not online if possible), be open minded but trust your instincts!

onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 29/11/2019 21:30

My DD (age 36 and single) decided to break out of her rut, resign her job, rent out her flat and go travelling for a year. Before she'd even left she was introduced to a friend of a friend and they started messaging. She cut short her travels after six months and they're happily engaged and buying a house together.

Doje · 29/11/2019 21:40

I met DH online. I'd dated loads, but never liked anyone enough for more than 2 dates at best.

I came home after work, had a big glass of wine, logged on to Match and messaged a bunch of people that I liked the profiles of. DH was among those. His picture looked a bit weird, but he and I shared a 'favourite author'. I wasn't expecting much from the date, but came away from it so smiley. Smile

Of course he then didn't message me, but that's another story!

Anniecott · 29/11/2019 21:57

I was in an abusive relationship so obviously my friends hated him.
My best friend took me out for for my birthday and we just 'happened' to meet up with her boyfriend and his mate, who she thought would be perfect for me !!, 23 yrs and a 17yr old son later, I think she might have been right 😁

FMFL · 29/11/2019 22:02

Lovely stories! I’ve been single for 2.5 years now and OLD has worn thin...I still have a little hope though!

ellesbellesxxx · 29/11/2019 22:02

Match.com almost nine years ago! Had tried plenty of internet dates, speed dating, salsa dancing etc but was determined that I needed to give it another try. On paper we probably didn’t match at all but when we met, we did!

MrsFoxPlus4Again · 29/11/2019 22:04

At school we were 15 and he was a little shit. My parents hated him & I thought he was the best thing since sliced bread. We’ve grew up a lot since then. Happily married, 3 living kids, 3 dogs, 2 cats and I own my own business. I still think he’s the best man Iv ever known.

Inthemoment38 · 29/11/2019 22:19

Tinder 4 years ago. House, ddog and baby dd now. Keep going!

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