I think my dd11 has an ED

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Dd barely eats anything. Example she will have two wheatabix and only eat one then declare she’s full. She turns her nose up to anything we have for tea and uses the excuse she didn’t like it (even though she has) to not eat.

She’s tiny, around 4ft10 and weights 5stone.

She had braces fitted on Wednesday and now that’s an new excuse for her to not eat. Yesterday she had one ice lolly.

Today she had half a wheatabix. She claims she can’t eat the sausages we are having for tea as they are “hard”.

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Act quickly, GP as soon as possible, inform school and if you’re able to self refer to CAMHs ED service do, some areas school can do this.

My d has an ED but we’ll on the way to recovery so I know how hard it is, please feel free to message me for links to useful resources, websites etc.

This is not a ‘wait and see’ situation as decline of health both physical and mental can be rapid.

I’m sorry.

Please take your gut feeling seriously.

The youngest anorexic I saw was 9.

How old is she? Has she always been slim or has she lost weight? Is her behaviour new or has she always been fussy? You know your own child and if her behaviour is just normal fussy child or something different. Go with your gut and get some advice.

I just reread, if that has been her true intake for a few days you'll need to take her to A&E this can help speed up camhs but she needs some health checks done quickly.

This is a good tool
www.feedyourinstinct.com.au/

Thanks all!
I’m going to ring the doctors for an appointment.

She’s lost weight, around 3 lbs.

She eats soooooo slowly too! Like a tiny piece at a time/nibbles.

She’s the smallest out of her friends.

She’s always been small but not majorly, she’s not built small iyswim.

She also buys sooo much food at school but admits she only eats abit then gives it her friends.

This book is great
www.amazon.co.uk/Nourish-Through-Eating-Disorder-Plate-ebook/dp/B075G4ZZT1?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Thank you! I will look.

Tonight she’s had some scrambled egg, beans and one sausage on a side plate. She refused to eat her toast.

Dm me, I'll send you a meal coaching video

Pmd you.

She has really bad trumps all the time too!

Go with your gut, if it is an ED the sooner it’s spotted the better. If it isn’t, then loss of appetite should still be checked out.

In my personal experience try not to mention it too much, if at all to her. My brother was diagnosed with an ED and admitted that my mum mentioning his weight and what he ate spurred it on even more.

I hope it turns out for the best for everyone OP, you seem like a great mum so I'm glad she's got you looking out for her x

Answered you but think my other user name shows. Oh yes, the trumps!

Sorry to hijack, but does anyone have any advice on what to actually say/do for a child who wont eat enough. Especially given what Toodler said.

Thank you, I’m getting worried about my DS.

You take complete charge tbh and assure them it's safe to eat.

Look for bungee jump video on YouTube it's by Eva Musby and is recommended by ED services

I echo others to take her to the GP ASAP. What could help is you going to speak to the GP first with your concerns- potentially by phone? That way your GP knows what to ask rather than you just saying what you think... if that makes sense?
Eating disorders needed to be caught ASAP when young before they spiral, get her booked in soo

It might be worth getting her checked with the GP just in case there’s also a health problem causing the symptoms, just thinking about you saying about the smelly trumps! I just wondered if part of her issues are because she knows her body will react to some foods? Someone I know had issues with food and looked very thin and ill, turned out she had coeliac disease. Once she changed her diet she gradually gained weight and looked much better. She’s now a healthy weight (and very active). Either way a GP visit would be advisable.