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What's your normal ratio of party no shows?

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drspouse · 28/11/2019 18:57

DS, who has had to move school and who has trouble making friends anyway, has asked for a football party for his birthday.
He has chosen 9 from his old school, two of his old nursery friends, and I've suggested 4 from his new school.
I'm certain they won't all come (one in particular DS wrote a note for and was in tears at missing and I passed on my number with the note and no contact at all) but the coach says because the hall we chose isn't huge he'd suggest maximum 10.
So I was going to ask the most likely (mainly my friends' DCs) and the new school DCs and give them a couple of weeks to reply and then invite the less likely ones from the old school.
But then I'm a bit worried about the no shows as if we get loads the numbers will be a bit small for them to have any fun.
So as a ballpark how many no shows do you reckon you normally get per 10 DCs?
If we get very few replies at all I will tell DD (who also does football with the same coach) she can ask a couple of friends as well.
(Other info, it's a Sat pm, in Jan but after they go back to school).

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JustaScratch · 28/11/2019 19:01

Golden rule is 30% drop out rate.

NeverTwerkNaked · 28/11/2019 19:03

I've stopped doing "price per child" parties because the no shows were infuriating. We had 1/6 not show up to DD party this year but it was a party at home so no real problem.

drspouse · 28/11/2019 19:05

Ulp! That's a lot! That's after RSVPing yes, I assume?
We have always done soft play/private cinema/trampolining where you either pay for the whole place or pay for who comes. So I guess I haven't been paying attention except to the one who always says yes and never comes but is lovely otherwise so we forgive them

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drspouse · 28/11/2019 19:08

It won't matter for the food or hall if they don't show up - hall is a flat fee and we'll just have loads of leftovers.
I just don't want to annoy the coach!

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BlueLadybird · 29/11/2019 21:08

I would just invite all 15 now and see what you get back. If low numbers, DD can bring a friend. The phasing of invites will get complicated.

drspouse · 29/11/2019 21:25

Practically speaking we will be sending one school batch out first but I think we won't wait for replies to send the other one out.

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