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DS has cancelled Christmas.....

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chomalungma · 27/11/2019 16:26

Well, he's not that bothered about it. Just me and him. Not too fussed about the decorations, a tree or even presents. Something to do with being over commercialised and bad for the environment.

So that's going to make the next few weeks interesting! I wonder if he'll hold on to that thought until the big day...

Anyone else's children thinking like that this year?

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DuesToTheDirt · 27/11/2019 16:27

Children no, me absolutely.

mummmy2017 · 27/11/2019 16:28

Sneak some things in..
See how long before he gives in.

TeenPlusTwenties · 27/11/2019 16:31

If you are reusing previous decorations that has no environmental impact (provided I suppose you don't put up Christmas lights).

If presents are going to be used and enjoyed and recyclable that's not so bad either.

If you wrap them in newspaper that helps too.

Would that kind of thing work?

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Mrsjayy · 27/11/2019 16:34

He is right of course but ill bet once you are into December he will buckle under it is only November we are being yelled at that it is Christmas it is a shamehe feels fatigued by it. Do acasual christmas go to a panto spend time together.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 27/11/2019 16:34

No but mine is only 6.

I will love it if DS cancels Christmas when he's older, it will save me a fortune!

NoNewsisGood · 27/11/2019 16:37

Go somewhere interesting over the time then. Travel can be a nightmare at that time of year, but I think if you are happy to travel late on 24th or on 25th, it can be cheaper/easier (for flights...maybe not great for environment?). Get a train to France or somewhere and go exploring and spend the days doing something fun together rather than sitting at home with the lack of things that usually signal Christmas time.

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chomalungma · 27/11/2019 16:38

I will love it if DS cancels Christmas when he's older, it will save me a fortune

He's 14.

We'll see how long the 'no presents' thing lasts Grin

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MamaWeasel · 27/11/2019 16:42

Mine is 20, and he is completely bah humbug......

Mrsjayy · 27/11/2019 16:43

Ah yeah once a pair of trainers catches his eye I am sure he will be full of Christmas cheer Grin

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 27/11/2019 17:00

Mine is very nearly 20 and is more than happy to work the 24/26 (P/T job he's at University) to escape from it all.
He says "We don't do anything" (We do but he doesn't get into it all)
So I should force him to sit with us instead of sloping off , watch ALL the soaps , come Christmas shopping with us and up to London to see the Lights , a meal at the 'Spoons and the cinema . That should cure his chinztyness .

Little turd would work Christmas Day if it was open, come home , scoff dinner and eat his own bodyweight in Selection Boxes .

Just wait till he has his own DC Xmas Grin

UnaOfStormhold · 27/11/2019 17:01

What about seeing if you can have a no-spend and/or low-carbon Christmas? Using stuff you already have, making gifts for each other etc.

HeyNotInMyName · 27/11/2019 17:03

I could actually see my dcs doing that.
Ask them what they want for Christmas and neither of them can answer... apparently there is nothing they want (similar age than the OP too). If it wasn’t for the fact it is a family occasion and they enjoy it, I’m nit sure they would be that bothered. Same with birthday. A meal, a cake etc... is more bcause i organised it than because they can’t wait for it iyswim

CorBlimeyGovenor · 27/11/2019 17:03

Of course he's going to want presents on the day. So, find some old newspapers and re wrap up some of his possessions!

Tighnabruaich · 27/11/2019 17:09

One year when it was just DH and I, I suggested not bothering with tree, lights etc - he looked staggered - and went about saying 'Tighna has cancelled Christmas'. He was 54.

Lindy2 · 27/11/2019 17:11

You can have an environmentally friendly Christmas. Why don't you think of ideas that don't create waste and help the planet?

Buy a potted Christmas tree and keep in growing in your garden. Decorate it with natural things like pinecones.

Make gifts that you can use or eat, so they have a practical use and aren't just tat. That actually sounds like a good Christmas to me.

averythinline · 27/11/2019 17:14

My DS is 14 as well and not massively into it..... until I mentioned traditional meet up with friends at xmas event.... and he's like why wouldn't want to do that!.....so we are looking at more of the experience stuff and less on the stuff stuff ....

he is part funding his own xmas present (its a v expensive gaming computer) and is trying to negotiate getting it before ! but grandparents are buying bits and they like handing over stuff..

I refuse to dial down teh lights/decorations as i like that bit but will probably focus on reducing 'extras'

AllYouGoodGoodPeople · 27/11/2019 17:19

DH tried this on me this morning. Said he didnt think we should bother with any of the this year. So you just want a Sunday roast then, I said. What if I, the person that shops, cooks and eats the what to eat those on my Christmas day?

So we are having the trimmings.

My 15 year old whinges on about all the disruption at Christmas but he also sent me some links to pjs last week and asked whether he could have them in the Christmas eve box, and when the decs come out he always fishes through to find the ones for his room. And his Amazon wishlist has been updated and made live. But he doesn't hold with all the fuss.....

EwwSprouts · 27/11/2019 17:22

DS 15 likes tree, decorations, food & lazing watching films. Not so bothered about presents as knows we spend a lot on his sports all year. Would sulk if didn't get a santa stocking still though.

Elvesdontdomagic · 27/11/2019 17:24

I hope my kids never think like that. It sounds like he's depressed?

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chomalungma · 27/11/2019 17:33

I think we need to watch The Good Life Christmas special.

Christmas doesn't come in a box.

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chomalungma · 27/11/2019 17:34

He's certainly not like Calvin

DS has cancelled Christmas.....
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Silverhill · 27/11/2019 17:36

DD (15) doesn't want any presents and wants to donate things to the local charity for the homeless instead.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 27/11/2019 17:38

I think the phase of not wanting too many plastic tat presents and a huge fussy meal (and don't forget many teenagers now are much more aware of Environmental Issues) is preferable to the "Barney The Dinosaur" ideals of Christmas that my DC had fixated on when they were little .

I've noticed all the Charity Appeals on Channel 5 now (the brutal ones not just the Fluffy Kitten ones ) an sometimes you think ^Why the Hell am I wasting time ,effort and money on this shit when someone is literally starving on a London street . Or a donkey in Egypt will buckle under a load of bricks and be beaten till it gets up, or dies "

Shosha1 · 27/11/2019 17:53

We are not bothering this year. DS, DDIL and DGD are in DDIL home country this year from the 11th December till NY.
So it is just DH and I. Neither if us want anything. DGDs birthday is the 10th so will have Christmas/Birthday presents before she goes.

We will go to see Star Wars on xmas eve, but that's because I'm a huge Star Wsrs fan.

Have changed money into Rands for DS and DDIL. will give them that at Heathrow.
Xmas day will just have a normal meal.
Not bothering with decorations nor a tree.

DH is a real bah humbug and I'm not bothered when family are away

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