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Can you overcome depression?

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heartsandkisses01 · 25/11/2019 12:29

Started with depression about 10 years following the birth of ds and ever since then I have had it on and off, usually lasts a couple of months. I have been recommended medication but scared of taking it and so just 'overcome' it myself, but I say I have a blip about 2-3 times a year. Is this is now for the rest of my life? Do I just have to accept? If I go on medication, which I really don't want to do, will that be it for life? f

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BloodyCats · 25/11/2019 12:32

Who knows, everyone is different. I think I will always struggle but taking up regular exercise has really helped me mentally. Hated it at first but have learnt to love it

Choufleur · 25/11/2019 12:33

Yes. I had pnd. Struggled on with “counselling” from hv. Was much better when I went back to work and as ds got older I seemed a lot better. Then Dh was seriously at the same time my dad was dying. Dad died. Dh thankfully recovered. Then a year later my mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer and I just couldn’t cope. Saw a different doctor and was prescribed ADs and had counselling through a cancer charity. Stayed on the Ads for about 5 years and gradually with the support of my gp came off them. I needed that long to be ok to come off them. But I am ok now. I’m not depressed or anxious in general.

heartsandkisses01 · 25/11/2019 12:37

Thank you @Choufleur that's good to know that you are now better. I generally find I'm better at work and now the children are older but something so small can just trigger it off. I often wonder if I never had children would I have suffered with it like this

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Meruem · 25/11/2019 12:41

I think it just depends on so many factors that there is no straight forward answer. I will be on anti depressants for life, in fact I'm on a combo of two as single ones weren't working for me. I've made my peace with it because I never want to fall in to that pit of despair again. I spent so many times sobbing and begging "the universe" to just let me die. It was literally only my love for my DC that stopped me from killing myself, I couldn't do that to them. But life was torture for me, with no real "reason" as to why. It just was. So if I have to take 2 tablets a day for the rest of my life so be it, because now I don't feel suicidal at all and can appreciate my life.

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 25/11/2019 12:44

I’ll be on them for life too. And the menopause is the gift that keeps giving re mental health

TheBlueStocking · 25/11/2019 12:45

Yes, you can. I'm diagnosed with major depression and I'm mostly ok.

In the winter, I make sure I take lots of exercise. I take vitamin D supplements - essential in the UK during the long nights. And I also have a couple of brief sunbed sessions throughout the winter period. I am aware that it isn't ideal for my skin, but it makes such a huge improvement to my mood. And having been suicidal, and with suicide in my family, I feel more concerned about avoiding a serious depressive episode than I do about skin cancer.

I do also take a low dose of antidepressants every day.

dontgobaconmyheart · 25/11/2019 12:46

Antidepressants don't have to be for 'life' no OP, you simply reduce the dose and come off if you want to do so. Medication is a trial and error thing and AD's suit everyone differently, they also take a while to work but can be life changing for those struggling- on the other side of the coin they don't work for everyone and as I said, it is sometimes a long process settling onthe right medication and dose for you, it may not be the one type GP starts you on, say.

A couple of months 2-3 times a year is half the year OP, and half your life. I think managing your expectations that depression is potentially impossible to shift entirely is not the same as not trying any treatment for it and suffering for quote a large amount of time.

'Overcoming' it and then falling back into it I think is a potentially unhelpful way of looking at it to an extent; there is no failure on your part when you feel depressed again, it is an illness and is cyclical- whilst there are lifestyle changes that can help a period of depression occurring, illness isn't really in our control or beaten by trying hard. We can try hard and stay functional if we want but there are limits to what effort can 'cure'.

I would speak with a GP, self refer for some counselling perhaps or CBT, medication works best alongside talking therapies and therapy in and of itself is very helpful for some people.

Whilst it sounds trite, if you're used to self management I would look at, and read up on lifestyle changes that are known to help- exercise is a big one, diet can be helpful, SAD lamps if it is worse during the winter, natural supplementation (do not mix this with prescribed medicine), mindfulness and relaxation apps, good sleep hygiene, activities such as drawing and painting. None are cures obviously but if you can give yourself an advantage in managing mood then why not.

TheBlueStocking · 25/11/2019 12:46

It's also the reason why I only had one child. After the PND I suffered, I wouldn't take the risk of a second child.

PurpleFrames · 25/11/2019 12:49

Why do you not want to accept medical intervention for your illness op?

LaserShark · 25/11/2019 12:53

Similarly to you, OP, I have had episodic bouts of depression which have very much intensified since I think I had PND after my youngest child’s birth.

I did try antidepressants but the side effects were not worth it for me. I was very lucky to be in a position to change my lifestyle a lot so that I am not in a stressful job and I can swim and walk every day, get out in the fresh air every morning and look after my mental health. For mild to moderate depression, I think there is evidence that exercise and fresh air can be as effective as medication. That’s definitely not the case for severe depression though. And if I was still in my old job, I would have to take antidepressants to cope and somehow manage to deal with the side effects of them because my mental health could not withstand the stress anymore and all the swimming and morning walks in the world wouldn’t have helped.

Talking therapy is supposed to be very good as well if you can get it.

FabbyChix · 25/11/2019 13:01

I did and that was ten years ago. I’m also recovering from seven years of hell abuse and I’ve managed to not sink. It’s easy depression is reliving the bad stuff too much thinking. Don’t think back only forward

FabbyChix · 25/11/2019 13:18

Oh. I’m taking the pills for life though

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