AIBU to take a day off work for my MH?

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I’m prepared to be told yes but here it goes!

DS 3 is under senco at nursery for what we thought were speech issues but now they’re querying autism. We’re in the queue for a paediatric referral but this could be months.

I’m just sick of everything. I work just shy of full time hours with my OH on pretty much opposite shifts to me to cut down on childcare costs. We hardly see each other as a family.

I’m sick of senco appointments with their fake simpering smiles and concerned hushed tones. Just speak to me like an adult and tell me the truth about him!

I’m sick of the looks the professionals give each other when DS doesn’t perform during their assessments when they always seem to coincide with nap time.

I’m sick of being perceived as unreasonable because I can’t just leave work to come to their limited appointment times mid-week.

I’m sick of not being listened to when I tell them how much progress my son is making, but everything he does during a 5 hour session a week at nursery is taken as gospel.

I’m sick of signing incident forms at nursery for when he tried to hug someone and accidentally scratched them.

I’m tired, so tired of fighting for him and banging my head against a brick wall. I’m not against him having SEN of any kind but I just want someone to listen to me!

I’m in work tomorrow until the early hours. WIBU to call in sick so I can just sit in silence, to try and de-fuzz my brain so I can stop thinking about my son’s future and to just focus on myself for once! I’m feel like I’m going to lose my mind .

Absolutely not being unreasonable. Your mental health is just as important as your physical and sometimes we just need a duvet day!!

Have a day off. I absolutely would. Sometimes your mental health is more important.

Do it. I've just decided I'm taking a me day tomorrow because I am thoroughly done and need some time. Hugs.

Do it and see your gp about your stress ATM.At the very least you can tell work that you have a gp appointment,GPS can be good support especially if this is ongoing .

Absolutely do it. Your mental health is every bit, if not more, important than your physical health

Yes, take a day off.

It's so hard when the NHS/CAMHS expect you to be able to drop everything at a moment's notice and after much umming and ahhing manage to negotiate a time with them (if you're lucky) that won't be too disruptive for work, and then you go into work and feel like the worst employee ever because you have to take time off again for an appointment.

Hopefully things will get a bit better once you've got a diagnosis, although from what you've said, it looks like you might be in this for the long haul. I'm in the same boat except my three are in their teens now.

It's bloody exhausting juggling work and appointments, and you must look after your own MH as it's your strength that will keep everything moving and get the best outcomes for your DS.

Definitely take a guilt-free day off just to breathe, collect your thoughts and unwind if possible, you deserve it

Thanks everyone. You’ve brought a little tear to my eye.

I think DS must have picked up on my vibes as he’s still asleep. It’s amazing what a lie-in and a cup of coffee in peace can do for your mood.