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Messenger Active status makes no sense

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Branster · 24/11/2019 08:59

I hope someone can help me as this is puzzling me.
Although I don’t use Messenger (or Facebook) that often, I decided to sort out all the privacy settings properly once and for all. Facebook was already set up to highest settings and the Chat function is Off on all devices I log onto.
I only use Messenger on my phone and my Active status is turned off.

According to all my google searches, based on the above, nobody should see me as Active and I shouldn’t see anybody else’s Active either.
Which is sort of true, in that the Active list in my Messenger is empty.
In reality (and this is how my questions came about), if I select one of my Messenger contacts and they happen to be Active, I can see the green dot and their status as Active. If they are not active at the time, Messenger tells me they were Active X hours ago.
I understand they might be (or have been) Active on Facebook or Messenger, no way of telling and it doesn’t really matter.
So, does this mean that despite my Active status being turned off in Messenger (and my Chat off in Facebook on all devices I use) others can still see my Active or Last Active status?
All this is puzzling me. I only discovered the Active function by accident and it annoyed me because some of my Messenger contacts were randoms (not Facebook friends) from Facebook Marketplace or local groups. It took me a while to realise these people (decent as they may be) were listed in my Messenger contacts to start with, which is obvious (doh!). Then it took me a while to realise we can see each other’s Active statuses. Took me further still to remove them from my Contacts list one by one because I simply don’t want them there.
My first question: will my own name still show as a contact in the Messenger of these non-Facebook friends after I removed them from my own contacts? And if so, will they continue to see my Active status?
My second question: if my own Active status is Off, do any of my Messenger contacts (friends and non-friends within Facebook) still get to see my own Active status if, as I mentioned above, I can still see theirs when looking at individual contact details, despite the fact that Messenger claim that when my own Active is turned off I can’t see anyone else’s anymore.
I still want to use Messenger and I will still have random contacts on there from time to time. Now I know I can remove them but I don’t want them to see anything about me during the short messages exchange and after I remove them from my contacts list; and I don’t want to see anything about them either as regards this Active status malarkey.
My actual phone contacts are not imported in Messenger, if that makes any difference.
Sorry it’s such a long post and thank you if you read thus far. I’ve been trying to get this clear in my head for ages and there isn’t a clear online answer that makes any sense to me.

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Branster · 24/11/2019 14:49

Anyone?...

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Therebythedoor · 24/11/2019 22:36

Sadly, it's all beyond me; hope someone will be able to help you though.

MoiraRose · 24/11/2019 22:41

I have tried several ways to never show when I'm online or last active, but despite Facebook having these settings, the reality is it doesn't work and still shows Angry

novasglowx · 24/11/2019 22:43

You have to switch active off on both the messenger app and the FB app separately.

SuzieSue89 · 25/11/2019 07:02

They can still figure out when you've been active if they've sent you a mssg while u been offline. The circle with the tick in it will fill in blue once u connect to internet again. That's not to say u were on Messenger though 😉 But making sure it's off on both Fb & Messenger is on point.

Branster · 25/11/2019 07:39

Thank you very much for your answers.
That’s what I thought too, that if I set Active to Off everywhere separately then nobody can see my status, ever.
But given the fact that I can still others’ status (when they say I shouldn’t be able to whilst mine is Off) makes me believe that it doesn’t actually work!

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MoiraRose · 26/11/2019 04:06

Yeah, mine is turned off everywhere and I still show when I'm online. Its just such an intrusion when I specifically set it to not show this! Facebook don't really care

Branster · 26/11/2019 17:02

You are so right Moira, it makes me wonder what else doesn’t work as it’s supposed to.
In all honesty, it’s not the end of the world with this particular issue but because I only noticed by chance, little by little, and thought it might be a good idea to act on it (I don’t want to know who has been or is Active and I don’t see why others need to know this about me either, especially the odd contacts who are not my Facebook friends) now I’m annoyed that a) it’s impossible to ever show as inactive and b) google is absolutely silent on this whole issue.
So that’s the end of my using local swap or sale groups and marketplace, all my stuff will end up with freecycle from now on or local charities!

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MrsLJ2014 · 26/11/2019 21:03

I don't even know if it's accurate, as my active status thing is set to off but I had my brother asking me what I was doing up at that time, as apparently I was active, when I was definitely fast asleep and not on my phone?!?

Branster · 27/11/2019 17:14

It probably isn’t accurate. And I suspect Facebook people don’t know how it works either.

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