Does having one child get easier or harder as they get older?

[wobdeing]

I've tried for another for years but am now thinking it won't happen. Ds is 7. I'm wondering if it'll get easier as he starts to arrange his own social life's. We've had lots if play dates but no sleepovers and I think they will be next

Maybe it will get easier now we are getting out of all my friends having little ones.

But I also fear it may be harder for me as he grows ever more independent and needs me less

Please tell me what it's like if you've been through this so I can prepare myself !

DS is now 10 so we’re only a few years ahead but it’s got much much easier. We stuck at 1 due to health reasons (I have a chronic disease) so we did have a choice in the matter but it wasn’t much of a choice and I still went through a type of grieving process for the 2nd child I would have loved had I not of had health problems.

It didn’t help that all my friends and close family members seemed to be popping out babies left right and centre but as you’ve said, that has now stopped and actually I’m so far past the baby stage now I couldn’t ever imagine going back to it.

DS is a very happy only child, he has a busy social life. I still organise it but I expect that’ll stop when he starts secondary school next September.

We’ve just got a puppy, we thought it might help us through the teen years to have a dog to walk together and also give me something to look after (although I’m seriously regretting that at the minute-he’s such hard work although we’re only a week in so he’s forgiven!)

Honestly, I really only see the positives to having an only now and I was quite down about it for a long time.

Thanks for your reply @Spotty528

I hope I'll get to where you are soon!

I do feel at the moment I'm going through a bit of a grieving process. Had a m/c over the summer and just not sure I can try again