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I feel like a CF thread...

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Ihatesundays · 22/11/2019 23:11

Inspired by a bit of reminiscing by DH and I.

DD had a friend. Made the effort to be friendly with her mum even though she was unreliable/bit of a pain (the CF).
Moved back to her home town, after a few months came back for a visit with her DD and DH to stay with FIL, no car with them.
Another parent from school hears they are back and invites her DD to their DDs birthday party, which my DD is going to, so she and DD can catch up with people.
Party is at an awkward location and not really possible by public transportation.

CF asks if she can get a lift, no problem I say. Happen to enquire what her DH is doing ‘oh he’s coming to the party too, he wants to see this venue.’
I point out that I only have a 4 seater car. ‘Oh, don’t you want to leave DD at home and just take us’?
Eer, why would I go to a kids party WITHOUT MY KID?!?

Anyway she actually gets really quite annoyed with me, I still offer to pick her and her DD up.
Later texts me that someone else is giving them a lift. I get to party and hear from lift person that there was a bit of a fuss as she didn’t have room in the car for the DH (and hadn’t asked). CF is having a right moan that her DH really wanted to come etc....

Still glad she moved away...

Tell me yours!

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MyKingdomForBrie · 22/11/2019 23:27

That's so absurd that if it wasn't MN home of the CFers I wouldn't believe it!

I don't have anything epic but why are the donees of free stuff on FB/free cycle etc always so rude? I've had many complaints like, 'why don't you deliver, I can't drive' or 'you could have dismantled this and packed it up for me' - just accept your free item with good grace!!

Whatsmyageagain0 · 22/11/2019 23:30

Halloween just gone and parents of my DD (11) friend just dropped her off at my house and drove away. As in ‘here’s my daughter dressed as a witch you can take her trick or treating’

And for context this kid has been to my house once.
She’s not my DDs best friend.
They didn’t ask permission.

Literally just dropped her off and fucked off.

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Ihatesundays · 22/11/2019 23:38

Wow 😮

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Witchofzog · 22/11/2019 23:42

I went to a hen do in a popular seaside town. Talked to a woman at the do for about 20 mins who didn't live in the town but around 100 miles away. I used to live in popular town but had moved away to grim northern mining town year or so earlier.

She adds me on Facebook which is fine and there is no contact between us for about a year. My Facebook profile is still showing me as living in popular seaside town.

I then get a random message from here. "Hey hun. Not seen you in ages. Let's catch up. Shall I come and stay at yours with the kids?"

I realise that she is just angling for a free holiday in popular seaside town so I messaged back "Hey hun. Oh how lovely. Yes please come with the kids. We are actually not too far from you in Grim Northern Mining Town. Looking forward to it"

Funny enough I never heard back from her and she deleted me shortly after. Cf.

formerbabe · 23/11/2019 00:16

Met a mum at a babygroup...second time I met her she asked me if I'd look after her baby when she went back to work Shock no, I'm not a childminder before anyone asks. In return for this, she said she'd babysit in the evening occasionally if I wanted a night out.

I declined.

JJSS123 · 23/11/2019 00:25

The baby group one has tickled me

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Ihatesundays · 23/11/2019 08:53

Baby group one is amazing.

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LouisaJenny · 23/11/2019 09:00

The baby group one Grin wow

Agree about people getting free stuff on gumtree/ebay. I gave away an almost new Kingsize bed once on gumtree. My then OH was there to see the person in, she moaned that it hadn’t been dismantled, when the advert said it was still assembled. She asked OH to help her - he had a broken arm!! Again, listed on the add that no help was available. As she left she said she felt bad to take it for free and wished she could give us something. OH said ok well £50 wouldn’t go amiss. She said, oh I don’t have anything, I was only being polite Grin

Winterdaysarehere · 23/11/2019 09:01

My neighbour and I became friends over a mutually sad event. Fast forward a few years, occasional home visits, a few drinks out and she turns up post solicitor appointment to announce she has named me as her dc's guardian in her will!!
No discussion /request!!
Shock

mummmy2017 · 23/11/2019 09:15

My child signed up for a school club, and I ordered them the equipment need to play, child choose item.
NDN is nagged by her child to do it too, and begs for place in club, drives into town hour journey so her child has the equipment by hometime from school, buys generic item everyone uses, so her child can show item off to my child.
Come Saturday the equipment my child liked arrives, my child shown her friend, the mum demands my child take the item to their house, I kid you not, I am summonsed next door to be informed I got the wrong item and am told to return it
I said not happening, they even tried to get the club leader make me send it back.

Fedupofitnow123 · 23/11/2019 09:28

I'm unashamedly place marking

Mammatino · 23/11/2019 10:57

NDN a few years ago had problem children (bad behaviour), she asked me if I could pick one up from school for a couple of days and keep for 2 hours till other friend picked up as she was going on holiday. Said OK for 3 days (I'm a pathetic soft touch) as child would be gone before DH (who had cancer) would be back from work (he had spotted CF behaviour miles before me). She effed off to the other side of the world for ten days with her family (who had banned the children from going as they knew she would dump kids on them). Anyway the person who was supposed to collect them didn't turn up until 9pm and it was for ten days not three and no one turned up for the weekend. The child wrecked my home, crayoned over my walls, emptied all my expensive bath oils down the bog, my DS had to stay at my mother's as he wasn't safe around her... Do you think mum said thank you for keeping her child, not leaving her with social services, feeding and clothing her (no clothes left)... No she fucking screamed at me and said I had agreed to keep her monster for ten days and I shouldn't have spoken to the school as she was in trouble now. The school spoke to me when they realised I was looking after child and there has been a serious incident involving another child. After a couple of years of CF behaviour (robbing broadband through the walls after photographing password), we moved. I do nothing for no one anymore.

beminetonight · 24/11/2019 21:12

There's a thread about a massive CF on AIBU at the moment.

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Ihatesundays · 24/11/2019 21:27

I’m going to look!!

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FloraMacDonald · 24/11/2019 21:45

Which one is it? I can't see it.

beminetonight · 24/11/2019 22:00

It's the one about an unwritten rule about others reciprocating free childcare when looking after their DC.

Cherrysoup · 24/11/2019 22:05

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Patroclus · 24/11/2019 23:10

To be fair that was a bit cheeky for your husband to say that, Louisa

OlaEliza · 24/11/2019 23:46

Placemarking too.

AlrightMo · 25/11/2019 01:01

Friend was having party for her DC and ordered letter balloons in her name. For story will call the child ‘Elizabeth’.

Other mum turns up to drop their child off whose name was Eliza.

Party mum distracted and running round after X number of 5yo’s.

After 30 minutes or so realises there is only ‘Beth’ left of the balloons. Party mum runs around looking for balloons when little Eliza pipes up ‘mummy took them home for my party tomorrow’

Icing on the cake, Elizabeth wasn’t even invited to Eliza’s party Grin

chamenanged · 25/11/2019 01:10

The woman in the bed story was hardly a CF not to have £50 in cash to hand to pay for something she'd gone to collect that was advertised as free. Surely anyone would have recognised that she was just being polite.

Instagrump · 25/11/2019 01:34

Kids who lived near me announced when I arrived at a club to pick my own kids up "Mum says you have to take us home" as they opened my car doors and climbed in.
Turns out CFer mum had signed her kids up to the club despite having no transport because she knew mine went there and I picked them up. She didn't even ask. Just expected because I lived nearby.

RebootYourEngine · 25/11/2019 04:55

Love a CF thread. Especially when I am awake in the middle of the night due to later stages of pregnancy.

JoannaObrien · 25/11/2019 05:01

When my son was at school I would give him a lift in my car because it was a long way to walk. One of his friends started to turn up on our doorstep for a lift which I didn't mind because I was going that way. A couple of years pass and my son passes his driving test at 17 and I buy him a small car for his birthday so he can drive to school for his final year. Anyway this boy still used to turn up on our doorstep and get my son to drive him to school. Then I find out he has a car as well as my son so I confronted him and asked "why don't you take it turns driving to school?" His reply "I can't afford the petrol" Shock

Waytooearly · 25/11/2019 05:09

Before mobile phones, remember how you'd agree to meet someone on a corner on a certain time?

My then boyfriend and I had someone staying with us. We agreed to meet one afternoon on a corner, then we'd take her home. Boyfriend and I stood in the icy wind at said corner for about half an hour, finally headed home. On the way home we happened to pass a cafe about ten minutes' walk away and saw her hanging out! We went in like wtf and she said, "It's cold out".