I feel like I'm losing her

[Catandstuff22]

I feel really sad tonight. I feel like I'm losing one of the greatest friends I've ever had. We've been friends for years but now live 200 miles apart. In the two years that we've lived this far apart I have been twice to stay with her (initiated by me) and three times a year I have visited mutual friends of ours who she did live very close to but now she lives a further hour away. We used to be in contact every day but now she ignores my messages or sends me short messages. When I suggest meeting up I just get excuses. I just feel like she's not interested in me anymore. I feel really sad, she was one of the greatest friends I've ever had.

No wonder you feel sad, I would too. Has something happened in her life to cause her to feel like this perhaps?

It sounds as if she is letting this friendship drift . The only "wise words" I have is to keep trying, just less often. Maybe once a week or once a month, just text that you're thinking of her. In time, her life might change again and she'll be more open to recharging your friendship.

This happened to me with my dearest friend - I was so sad that her life had gone off in another direction and she didn't need me any more. I kept on sending the odd message, just every few months , and sent a newsy letter/card at Christmas and her birthday. I did that for years. Then two years ago she started emailing me, short messages and then longer ones. Then she came to visit me, and I went to her, and now we are back where we were years ago, besties for life.

Good luck to you.

Thanks.
I absolutely always thought she would be my maid of honour but now I feel like I'm losing her.
She makes excuses that she doesn't go out anymore but she does, I see on SM that she's out drinking.
As bad as it sounds it makes me want to be like okay then, this is over. Rather than be the pathetic one trying to hang on to something that's over. I'm here feeling really sad about it and thinking about all our lovely memories and I've seen she's out drinking and singing at the top of her lungs. Who's the idiot here

persevere and don’t lose hope. We all go through seasons in life and sometimes we have more or less to give of ourselves. Just because it’s a tough bit now doesn’t mean it won’t be easier in the future.
This happened to me with an old friend; we drift in and out of each others’ lives. But we’re solid.
But I appreciate it yay be painful for you.