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How and when did announce the birth of your baby?

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Southmouth · 22/11/2019 19:06

Being pregnant has got me thinking and wondering how everyone else announces the birth? And when? Did you tell people more or less straight or away or keep it to yourself for a bit?

This is my 3rd but I never got to announce the other 2. We immediately told very close family pretty much as soon as they were born and despite being under strict instruction not to put it on social media until we had announced it ourselves, my MIL posted the arrival including the name, weight, time and then tagged myself and my partner in it just to top it off Angry

She knew from our 1st we weren’t happy about her announcing it, and we thought we’d made it crystal clear with the 2nd but it wasn't until extended family an friends started messaging us congratulations on all Facebook that we realised she done it again!

I know this may be minor to some, but we want to share this special news ourself when we feel the time the right, not when MIL decides!

How can I make it anymore clear a 3rd time?

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Anoisagusaris · 22/11/2019 19:10

Didn’t ‘announce’ it for any of them. Phoned/texted immediate family shorter after the births and then texted friends, other relatives and a work contact later that day.

EskewedBeef · 22/11/2019 19:11

I think my husband phoned parents and siblings, and they will have passed the message on to other family. I think the message trickled through to friends via best friends, colleagues etc soon after. There was no announcement in the paper or anything.

SweepTheHalls · 22/11/2019 19:13

Rang parents, pic on fb the following day for everyone else.

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Heatherjayne1972 · 22/11/2019 19:13

Phoned our parents first and let them do the announcing
Word soon got around

This was in the days before social media tho

MrsFoxPlus4Again · 22/11/2019 19:14

On Facebook with my first. Never announced my stillbirth, family new. Didn’t have social media when my twins were born if you were important enough to know you new.

ShinyGiratina · 22/11/2019 19:14

Rang parents while in Recovery. Text message to other family/ close friends. FB a few hours later.

InDubiousBattle · 22/11/2019 19:17

Dp rang our parents and siblings shortly after ds was born, I texted my close friends later the same day. We don't put our children on Facebook ever and our families respect that.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 22/11/2019 19:19

DD1- rang the Grandparents, they passed the message on. When out of hospital we shared a photo online

DD2- both sets of grandparents knew that night (and my brother)- but they were on strict instructions not to tell anyone else. Msg sent to DH through the Army. Properly 'announced' after I had spoken to him the next day and he had received the photos.

NickMarlow · 22/11/2019 19:22

Both mine were c sections. Dh rang our parents and siblings when we were back on the ward. When we were ready for everyone else to know, I sent a message to very close friends and then put it on facebook.

We asked our parents not to put any pictures on facebook until we did ourselves, a few days later when I was home and feeling a bit better. MIL wasn't at all pleased about that with dd1. She got over it by dd2, probably partly because she was busy looking after dd1!

Whatsmyageagain0 · 22/11/2019 19:24

Rang close relatives

Then put on Facebook ‘there’s a new surname in the oven due March 2018’

I’m not a fan of those cringey stages photos like a photo of a baby grow and the scan and the other kid with a Chalk board saying ‘I’m going to be a big brother’

Puke

Yoohoo16 · 22/11/2019 19:29

Rang parents, they told other family.
No social media announcement from us or family.

CasualChocolate · 22/11/2019 19:35

My husband rang and text ppl but if it was up to me I probably wouldn't have told anyone for a few days. Just time to get home, settled and process everything that had happened.

Itstheprinciple · 24/11/2019 08:38

Pre social media so DH rang the parents and some close friends were looking after our cats at our house so they knew once DH got home. Those people just passed it on to other family and friends as and when. No big announcement, no going home outfit, no gender reveal party, no baby shower. I'm not quite sure how we managed really, but somehow everyone who needed to know got to know!

BertieBotts · 24/11/2019 08:42

Phone calls to relatives.

Facebook for everyone else. DS2 we didn't announce for 3 days because we were still in hospital and he was a bit poorly so we needed to get our heads around it and so on. DS1 I think I put something up the same day he was born with "pictures to follow" as it was pre-smartphone.

How to deal with MIL: Don't tell her until you're ready to announce to the world. Sounds harsh, but she hasn't really given you another option.

I would have the post ready to go and then ring her and press send on it at the same time, so she can't claim she "found out on facebook".

alwayscauseastir · 24/11/2019 08:56

Rang all immediate family within a few hours and sent pictures. Family came up the next day to meet her, I then announced it on social media. With DD2, I didn't even announce I was pregnant. All family and friends who were important knew. DD2 arrived super fast and I was back home within 4 hours. I spent a good few days at home setting down with new baby and enabling big sister to bond with little sister. I put it on social media about 7 days after she was born, with a picture of her big sister holding her and saying "xxxxx is an amazing big sister". Along with the many congratulations, most of the comments were "omg....didn't even know you were pregnant". I felt like saying "it you kept in touch and saw me in real life blah blah blah" but I didn't. Just shows how fake social media "friends" can be.

BertieBotts · 24/11/2019 08:59

Haha, I've said "Didn't even know you were pregnant" before on SM. It's not meant as a dig honestly, just genuine surprise.

alwayscauseastir · 24/11/2019 09:03

@BertieBotts I didn't take it as a dig as such, I meant from some of my friends who I would have considered as close at one point, who have dropped off after I had my first child. I'm quite an active person in our village and hadnt hidden my bump. Maybe they just thought I'd put on weight Grin

CakeNinja · 24/11/2019 09:04

Each time, dp phoned parents and siblings after the birth.
I didn’t speak to anyone, left it to him.

BatleyTownswomensGuild · 24/11/2019 09:10

DH phoned both sets of Grandparents whilst I was in recovery and they passed it to family. Put a post on FB about 24-36 hours later for everyone else.

Crunchymum · 24/11/2019 09:25

Text each time (mine have all been born at night / very early in the morning) to immediate family and close friends.

Not on SM so have never "announced" anything to anyone.

AaandBreathe · 24/11/2019 10:44

DH texted both sets of parents immediately. I called my aunt and grandmother a few hours later and told them they could pass the news on to the respective sides of the family. Then I texted my closest friends and the following day put it on Facebook. I have no idea if DH or MIL told BIL!

You don't have much choice. If you don't want MIL announcing it, you need to announce it before you tell her.

ActualHornist · 24/11/2019 10:45

We just text or called the people that needed to know. I don’t really understand the angst around announcing births.

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