I am a early years childcare professional, I have 3 children, boy 24, boy 12, girl 10.
Recently my girl has started going through puberty and has a lot of changes going on with her body that her peers aren't yet experiencing . My son aged 12 has always been a nightmare to her, I have tried my hardest to deal with what I would call actually bullying and harrasing her in all aspects of her life. It was so bad in the summer holidays I phoned the doctors for help with his behaviour, they said I'd get an appointment for counselling for him, which still hasn't come, I've chased it but been told there is a waiting list.
Two weeks ago after they had had a run in over something trivial she disclosed to me that she has simply had enough of him, so much that she has suicidal thoughts...I have taken this seriously although secretly hoped that she is being hormonal.
Today I checked her mobile phone as I do regularly ( I know 10 is quiet young to have a phone, but she has it to keep contact with her dad plus her friends as she recently moved school to the one I work in for year 6) on her phone I found messages to her step sister saying she wants to die because of her brother, along with pictures of scratches on her arms, and messages to her old school friends saying shes gay ( which isnt a problem, but do think 10 is young to be making such big decisions)
I really dont know where to turn, i feel like If I contact doctors then I'm opening a can of worms so to speak. I know she needs help and maybe he does too. I feel like I dont want to talk to her teachers as I work in the environment, and as much as confidentiality is meant to be in place, I'm sure it will be topic of staff room discussions, it's a small village religious school and any dating relationships are discouraged, yet alone my daughter having feelings for one of her peers. Up until now she has been a easy child, achieving academically and placid.
Any advice would be so gratefully received