I basically ghosted a friend of mine about 6 months ago - after 12 years of friendship - the last 6 years had been very difficult, she was very needy, demanding, jealous - there were a few big incidents where she caused huge amounts of stress to me while I was struggling badly with anxiety!
Turns out she's just not a nice person, i find her quite toxic & she brings me no happiness just makes hypes my anxiety up!
I was afraid to post on social media as if she found out where I was/doing anything with anyone else she'd go mad - she tried to talk me out of getting married.. several incidents like this occurred!
I just cut her off after she got pissed off at me for not meeting her when I was in town for my Gran's funeral - she said i was so selfish and a crap friend to not make time for her (WTF)
I'm much happier with her out of my life - felt quite liberating - she is blocked from everything so can't contact me!
Now others from our friendship group are messaging me wondering why I have been so awful to her and one friend in particular is trying to force some sort of reunion when I am home over Xmas !
Yes ghosting is not ideal, but I feel like in this situation I did the right thing for me & my mental health!
Am now worried i've basically lost a whole group of mates over this who think I'm a crap friend
Was I right to ghost, should I have ended the friendship properly?? I feel super stressed now about going home for Christmas which is annoying - I'm probably going to run into her - mutual friends are likely to try meddle/get a reunion going....ffs