What have you done in the past 10 years?

[WellWhatsChanged]

Name changed as this is very obvious if you know me.

I saw this on twitter this evening and thought it'd be nice with one month left of the decade to have a chat about what everyone's done.

I have:
Seen my brother go to uni
Said goodbye to a beloved pet
Moved out
Wrote 2 cars off
Moved back home
Saw my brother move to London
Watched most of my closest friends have babies
Saw another one move to Australia
Got a full time job
Met the love of my life
Moved out again
Met the second love of my life
Bought a house to keep the second love (obviously my pup)
Got angry at people who didn't vote... A few times
Got a new job
Watched my parents sell my childhood home
Crashed again (4 car crashes in total)
Bought a hella cool car
Saw my brother move to New York
Cried a lot as second love needed a hip operation
Had a baby (met the 3rd love of my life)

My 20s have been rather busy 😂

Also:
Read a lot
Joined the gym (a few times)
Made some life long friends

This is lovely - and it's been a great prompt to evaluate the last decade (which also coincidentally tracks to my 30s)...

Been to uni twice (2 post grads)
New career and promotion
Moved house 3 times (NEVER again)
Watched my siblings marry
Lost 2 grandparents and a couple of friends
Become an aunt (twice)
Watch some of my closest friends marry
Got engaged and married to my amazing DH
Some fabulous holidays
Got rid of my debt (except mortgage) and improved my credit rating from as bad as it gets to as good as it gets.

@raskolnikova
If you feel comfortable sharing it, can you tell us more about the SIDS incident? Interested new mum... Glad your baby was ok.

I have
Moved house
Got married
Built our own home
Lived the horror of my dd being murdered.
Buried my dd
Gave birth
Watched my mum develop dementia.
Lost my mum
The last 10 have been the worst of my life. Apart from DH and giving birth to Dd2.

Got married.
Had DS2.

Ooh I love this! There will be more I'm sure but for me I have:

Broken off an engagement to a toxic man that was never going to change
Started a relationship with someone almost twice my age ...
...Then left him about 6 months later when I realised he was emotionally, financially and sexually abusive
Met my (now) DH
Got married!
Had a baby
fell pregnant with #2
Totally changed careers from call centre work (nothing wrong with it, just not my bag) to engineering - putting myself through a hnc, then degree, then masters, both studying and working full time (not so humble brag, I'm pretty proud of that one)
Bagged my dream job
Lost four family members :(
Gained 3 pets
Became an auntie
Gained and lost the same 3 stone about four times
Learned to swim!
Went on my first holiday abroad (honeymoon)

Oh wow so many people have done so many different and similar things!!!

I'm sorry for all the losses and congratulations in all the gains!!

Hopefully the 2020s will be good to everyone!!!

I'll be turning 30, hopefully someone has listened to me and after 15+ years of asking have gotten me a hot air balloon ride.

Got engaged
MOH at best friends wedding
Got pregnant (oops)
MOH at another best friends wedding
Lost grandfather
Got married
California Honeymoon
Bridesmaid at another beat friends wedding
Baby #1
Bought a "forever home"
Nephew born
Baby #2
Changed jobs (#2 dream job/shorter commute)
Baby #3
Promoted at work
Hubby offered promotion across the world for work
Quit my job & became SAHM (#1 dream job)
Moved our family across world
Settled into our new life
Brothers wedding
Traveled to 6 countries with 3 little kids
Started my Masters
Expecting another nephew next year

It has been a hell of a lot crammed into a decade. I'm hoping life goes into cruise control from here on out with just a sprinkle of excitement and not so many crazy life changing events :)

Graduated
Got back together with my first boyfriend
Married my first boyfriend 💓
Bought our first house
Got 2 new jobs
Had some lovely holidays, favourite being Iceland
Found out I have an older half sister who i’d never heard of before.
Now have 5 lovely nieces and 2 step children (in addition to my son but he’s 16)

Oh I love this thread. I'll try:

Went to uni and graduated with a first
Lived in two different countries
Got engaged & broke up
Got my dream job
Moved back to my home country
Found the real love of my life
Started the second uni degree
Got engaged for real
Bought a house
Had a terrible job where I had to quit
Said goodbye to a pet
Rekindled old friendships
Learned to say no
started therapy
Lost a lot of weight
Read a lot
Quit smoking & then started again but only a few a day this time

Oh wow... this year has been a long one, waiting to see what the next decade brings

parkhead so sorry for your unimaginable losses.

I won't give a long list.

Heading it is learning another language.

Graduated
Met DH
Moved in with DH
Got Dcat1
Got onto a graduate scheme
Moved house
Got married
Got Dcat2
Completed a masters
Moved house
Had DS
Bought house
Quit management job I was miserable in for admin job I am happy in
Got Dcat3

I do feel as though I have done a heck of a lot tbh and am planning for the next decade to just be working around DS and enjoying family life. Hopefully move house one more time :)

Got divorced
Raised two children from primary to GCSEs and A levels
Got my DD off to uni
Had 3 relationships - the last fell deeply in and out of love
Set up a new organisation
Became chair of another one
Started a new job
Travelled to Japan, Australia, The Netherlands, Portugal, Finland, Singapore and the US for work
Bought a new car
Got thin and fit and then fat and lazy again
Had a tooth pulled out
Went through menopause
Had a lot of laughs along the way

Raised 2 kids (now 12 and 10)
Ran my own business
Taught crochet and felting
Learnt patchwork and quilting
Done a degree
Gone back to full time work
Bought a new house
Been promoted a couple of times
Taken up climbing, caving, wild swimming and scuba diving (among other less frequent hobbies)
Got divorced
Moved into a rental property
Bought a house
Bought a car
Took a dive holiday to dive with sharks in Egypt
Joined a caving club, a climbing club and a diving club

@FusionChefGeoff

Wow congratulations. That is wonderful.

Great thread

Was with the wrong man (but nice guy)
Got engaged
Got 3 cats
Bought a house
Got married
Split up

Was with another wrong man (absolute dick head)
Got engaged
Got another 3 cats
Suffered DV
Had 4 IVF cycles and a miscarriage
Split up

Met the right man
Passed my driving test
Complete change of career to my dream job
Had 1 IVF cycle and a son through donor eggs
Miracle natural pregnancy brought another son 17 months later

The last 4 years have been good

Wow- interesting thread

I have:

Got married
Had 3 kids
several rounds of IVF
moved to a new country
totally changed career
reached an important milestone in new career that I was proud of
Had PND and recovered
Had 2 babies with no PND
Done a lot of kid stuff- some of it very challenging indeed, some of it wonderful
bought a house and renovated it/ made it a home
Had some therapy and gained a more positive outlook

Oh blimey, ok:

Got married
Graduated
Got a high-flying city job
Quit high-flying city job for the sake of my soul
Qualified as a teacher
Moved house 5 times
Bought a house
Got a cat
Been promoted
Watched DH get a PhD and become a barrister
Met my best friends
Travelled to 3 different continents
Climbed a big mountain
Bought 2 cars
Had a baby

My life is very very different to what it was 10 years ago!

Restarted my career.
Closed a business.
Got divorced.
Moved house.
Left a job.
Started a business.
Closed a business (again).
Started a new job.
Had a dog pts.
Seen two kids off to uni.
Got married.
Started running and run a 10K.
Been to New York, Florida, Mexico, France and Italy.
Started a Masters.
Lost my dad.

Hmm, 2010 onwards...

Got together with my 2nd DH (already knew him), moved in together, enjoyed life together - holidays and ordinary days, got married, got his cancer diagnosis, held him while he died, grieved. And time heals.

Saw my 2 dc's through primary and ds1 through secondary and GCSE's. Helped development them into the young men they are becoming.

Got a puppy after DH died, he's snuggled up on my knee now.
Did an agility beginners course with him and really enjoy it - even though I'm not agile enough and he's not obedient enough! Carrying in with it regardless.

Developed friendships old and new, found people who were really there for me when I needed them.

Joined a Bridge club and learned to play - love it.

Stayed with the same employer in the same role, but through various changes. Happy with my career and feel like I am a valued member of the management team.

Met the bloke I'm now seeing through online dating about 18 months ago.

And, in the main, I've been happy.
There has obviously been some very low points in the last decade, and I still miss DH and wish he was here. But I'm carrying on and life is generally good.

Got married
Had two more DC (already had one)
Moved house 4 times
Changed jobs 3 times
Lost the remaining two Grandparents I had left
Lost 2 friends to cancer
Got a dog
Finally bought our 'forever' home
Got out of debt - paid it all off bar the mortgage
Found out I had a congenital heart defect and had a corrective procedure
Had a couple of other health issues that have thankfully resolved
Joined the PTA despite swearing I never would!
Turned 40 and spent this year having multiple weekends away and parties to celebrate the fact!
Despite the ups and downs this last decade has been the most content time of my life so far. I want to stay as happy and blessed as I am right now forever...

I'm going to keep this really simple. In the last decade I have:

Gone back to work full time in a new career
Seen my children grow to adulthood
Gone through the menopause
Almost paid off my mortgage, just a few months to go

Pity dated someone at work for two months.
Met my boyfriend.
Got in my first place university.
Moved to my university town with said boyfriend.
Passed driving test in 2nd year.
Rented with boyfriend for 3rd year.
Bought a car outright.
Graduated with a 2:1.
Started first full time job.
Got engaged.
Changed career (trainee).
Lost loads of weight.
Bought a house.
Got married.
Got two extra part time jobs to pay off wedding (worked up to 17 working hours a day twice a week, 12 hours a day twice a week exc travel).
Left one part time job after six months- repaid 7k debt.
Finished first career qualification.
Moved house.
Got a new full time job and left part time job as well.
Put weight on.
Finished second vocation qualification and promoted twice to manager in 8 months.
Put even more weight on due to expecting our first child.

Ironically enough it's my birthday today, so a perfect 10 years back to when I was 17!

@ScarletGlow (I should probably put Trigger Warning or something here.) It happened the same day that we brought her home from the hospital after the birth. I was tidying and her father noticed she had been very still in her cot. We got her out and she was floppy and unresponsive. Obviously we raced straight back to the hospital, where she sort of came alive again... She stayed there being monitored for almost a week.

No one was entirely sure what happened, the consultant said it would have been a cot death, and she had a heart monitor and monthly check ups for six months afterwards.

I try not to think about it now, it was an awful experience, and along with the other things that happened around that time it has left me a bit traumatised really. However, the good news is that you would never guess if you met my daughter now. She will be one on Tuesday, and she walks, dances and claps along to music, says words, is healthy and very strong-willed . I don't think what happened to us was a usual occurrance, so aside from following the normal safety guidelines please don't worry too much about it happening to you.