do you have or know anyone who has 3 boys?

[belleandbete]

Please tell me nice things about life with three boys, either your own, or a family you know- especially anyone who knows a family like that who are now grown up and still get on well. I need to hear some happy, encouraging stories as I"m feeling quite down about never having a DD.

(if you have awful stories feel free to share those too, I guess- need a realistic picture!)

thank you!

@roisinagusniamh I hate that phrase too, also because it seems so dehumanizing to boys.

Yes and also describing girls as ‘devious’. You don’t need to put down girls to say how great boys are!

My closest friend has three boys.
They are all in their twenties now.
When they were small my friend was so sad that she would never have a daughter. We spent lots of time discussing how People were so insensitive towards her. Her sister in law in particular. They would regularly meet for coffee and the SiL would make her feel so left out, as the SiL had daughters. The SiL would plan extravagant girlie birthday parties in front of my friend, with other mums of girls, and then not allow my friends children to attend as they were boys.
A mid wife who came to visit after the birth of her last son said “Oh what a shame, you must be so disappointed”. Lots of little throw away remarks really affected her and made her feel as though she had missed out on something good.

Despite the disappointment she raised her boys in a very positive way. She encouraged them all to develop their own interests and to bring their friends home. She got involved in sports and interests that were outside her previous experience because that’s what her sons were interested in. I think she was amazed at the different things she found she enjoyed.

Recently I attended the wedding of the eldest son and it was amazing. In the speeches from the best man, the brides maid and other friends what was conveyed was how everyone admired what a tight knit, loving family the three sons and the mum and dad were, and how they had drawn in and supported other young people, boys and girls.

My friend has never had a daughter it’s true, but she has a great relationship with her adult sons. She has informally adopted one or two of their girlfriends even ex girlfriends, for coffees out and shopping trips. She commented recently that she wished she had known when the third boy was born that she would cease feeling as though she had missed out on something by not having a daughter.
Oh and perhaps I should mention my friends sister in laws’s daughters both moved far away from their mother once they were old enough, one to Australia. So all her gloating and quoting to my friend : “A son is a son until he gets him a wife, A daughter is a daughter all of her life” came to naught.

I hope everything works out just as well for you and your sons too.

she has a great relationship with her adult sons. She has informally adopted one or two of their girlfriends even ex girlfriends,

Ha yes, I am an adopted ex-girlfriend, still get on very well with my ex's mother of 3 boys!

@whatamissmap what a wonderful inspiring post. Thanks so much for taking the time to write it. I hope to have a lovely relationship like that with my boys when they are older. Luckily none of my friends are mean like that. It's more just subtle 'asides" and puty from randoms that get me. Thanks so much for the perspective

All parents should strive to have a good relationship with their children regardless of gender.
What if you have three sons and they are gay?
Oh no! no daughters in law to combinsate!!!
Who will we go shopping and have coffee with...tradegy!!
Because boys cannot shop or drink coffee...it's the Gender Stereotype law!

Puty? Have no idea what that was supposed to mean but I guess you get my drift !