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**POSSIBLY TRIGGERING** Re indecent images

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Offerdecisionneeded · 19/11/2019 21:42

Just looking for legal advice.
Someone who has been working in our house (decorating etc) for the last month was in court recently for possessing ‘indecent images’ and was put on the sex offenders register for 5 years and has some community work/rehab.
He tells me it was an image of an adult.
I have three young children and am crapping myself that he hasn’t told the truth and it was in fact images of children.
We asked him to leave immediately.
Do ‘indecent’ images always involve children or could the content have been indecent images of adults?
Either way, it’s awful.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 19/11/2019 22:19

Well if they were taken without the adults consent and full permission. Yes I’d imagine it is still classed as an offence, so it could well be indecent images of adults rather than children (not that that makes it okay of course). Then again he could very well be lying. Either way I don’t blame you for getting rid and not wanting him around your little ones.
Do you know his name. You can look him up on the sex offenders register, I’d imagine.

Offerdecisionneeded · 19/11/2019 22:48

Yes, I know his name. Thanks. I contacted the police to try to clarify the story but they can’t release why he’ll be on the register as we’ve since fired him and he’ll no longer have contact with us..

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BingoLittlesUncle · 20/11/2019 01:42

Adults + animals = "indecent".

Taraswell · 20/11/2019 01:44

It's likely to be children tbh
Have you done a search of his name to see if his conviction was reported in the local area?

Offerdecisionneeded · 20/11/2019 06:30

Yeh, nothing comes up when I google and name is quite unusual so don’t think I’ve missed it.

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QOD · 20/11/2019 06:33

How did you find out?

Offerdecisionneeded · 20/11/2019 06:51

He told my husband that the day before, he’d been in court. He then gave a long drawn out story of the alleged offence and said it was all a misunderstanding but that the court hadn’t felt so, hence being put on Sex Offenders register.
Something about it all just doesn’t sit right with me.

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Offerdecisionneeded · 20/11/2019 06:52

He was fully expecting to continue working here, which makes me think he’s down playing the crime so that we didn’t get rid of him but I just wouldn’t feel comfortable having him in the house.

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Taraswell · 20/11/2019 08:58

It's 100 per cent children
You did the right thing

Offerdecisionneeded · 20/11/2019 09:44

I’m starting to think that. Searched the kids’ bedrooms for hidden cameras last night.
I emailed the police again last night who said this morning can apply via gov.uk for details of the court case.
I don’t get why he said anything at all to my husband though.. it’s so strange.

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MyKingdomForBrie · 20/11/2019 10:04

It doesn't sound like someone you would want in your house either way to be honest, whatever it was it must have been bad for that sentence.

Slappadabass · 20/11/2019 10:13

You did the right thing, you can never be too careful with your children.

Id feel totally freaked out about having someone like that in my house too, bloody creep!

Offerdecisionneeded · 20/11/2019 10:21

I know. And I really don’t want to be a drama llama about it. I’m confident my kids were safe at all times but the only thing I worry is that the younger pair nap in the day and I’d put them upstairs in their cots for 2 hours while he was working in the next bedroom. They’re noisy and if woken start shouting for me. I’d put the monitor on and house is quiet so I’m sure I would have heard him go in.
I dunno, I cant bear thinking about it but those are the thoughts whirring around my head at 3am. 😞
Flitting between feeling absolutely stupid for doing that and reassuring myself that most would do the same.

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MollyWeasleysWizardsSleeve · 20/11/2019 10:36

Yes, I would have done the same.
Whatever he did, it doesn't sound good.

MollyWeasleysWizardsSleeve · 20/11/2019 10:37

And also, I wouldn't want a convicted sex offender in my house/around my children. I don't care what they did, to whom or any excuses they have to give. Just no. It's your house and you can decide who comes in, no explanations needed.

Taraswell · 20/11/2019 12:04

Oh OP don't torture yourself! Your children were fine during their nap, nothing at all happened to them. You know yourself you would have heard on the baby monitors! And you didn't. So nothing happened and your wee ones were and are ok. And you took protective action immediately to make sure it stayed that way.

Mum guilt eh! Flowers

Offerdecisionneeded · 20/11/2019 12:29

Aah thanks X

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hardyloveit · 20/11/2019 12:45

@Taraswell you don't know it's 100% children!

Indecent pictures CAN be children but can also be adults and animals.

Whatever the crime and whatever e picture you have done the right thing op.

Taraswell · 20/11/2019 15:34

Conviction regarding indecent images is children
Adults and animals come under different categories

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