Missing cash dilemma

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Yesterday evening I did something really stupid while rushing about managed to leave my purse in the local shop.
Very unusually it had a lot of cash in it, DH had been very kind and given me all the cash his family had given him for his birthday and some extra he got from selling something. He wanted me to treat myself to some new clothes and things for Christmas. I don't know why I took my purse rather than just my card... Total brain fart, probably hormone related
Someone handed the purse in but minus the cash.
When DS1 saw me upset about this he volunteered to give me 2/3 of the money ( he is an adult who lives at home and pays a token rent).
My dillemma is whether to fess up ( always do about my slip ups generally) and therefore spoil DHs lovely gesture or pretend it never happened so he can feel happy about being generous. He will not be angry with me directly but will be sad and find it hard to let it go, he hates wasting money ( who doesn't?) and may even blame himself for not making me put it somewhere safe right away.
So choices upset and disappoint DH or lie to him to spare him from being upset?
I am getting the shop to check CCTV just in case, it's a village and purses and wallets are usually handed in untampered with, I guess this was too much of a temptation...

I think I would tell him, just because I hate the mess and tangle of lies.

I think it would be a lot to tell your DS not to tell his father. If that happened to DH I’d be annoyed if he was careless with money, but encouraging the kids (adults or not) to hide things from me is a no no for me

Tell the truth.

and report to the police.

Truth, without doubt.

I know, I'll end up telling him, I always do.
What's worse is I dented the car on a bollard the other week too...
I wouldn't tell DS not to tell his Dad, oh God, you're right it's too messy. I've always been totally honest about big things, occasional wee white lies about minor things...
It's really upset me that someone would pilfer the cash, shouldn't shock me really, not as if I live somewhere unsafe.

Its going to be so horrible turning his kind act into something stressful and annoying 😞

You got a thief in your village or currently working in your local shop. I hope cctv picks up the criminal.

Surely the shop has CCTV if you left it on the counter they should see who picked it up. As the shop owner/manager to look.

I think I left it at the self service till, put it down while packing my shopping. I am going to get the CCTV checked when the manager is in. Gave up on getting through to 101, will try later.
I have just told DH, he was horrified and blamed himself for not making me put it away somewhere safe,. I feel really shit...

what a horrible thing to happen, however your DS sounds like a very generous and kind person!

Well sounds like you have 2 very generous men in your life.

But you simply made a mistake. We all do it.

I can understand you being annoyed and feeling guilty but all of you need to channel your love for each other into accepting it's a mistake not taking blame - because it's not your Dh fault.

I reported it to the police, was unsure about it but because I'd have to explain what an idiot I'd been ( why didn't I just take my debit card to the shop?) However, I checked my home insurance and I may be covered, minus the policy excess as long as I reported it to the police. In which case I should get almost half of it back.

I really hope it wasn't anyone in the shop, I've been going in there for 20 years, it never actually occurred to me that it might be one of them.