Does he like me?

[Nosquit]

This is gonna sound so teenager but there goes.

So there’s this guy I like in an online chat group (who I have met once before at a group meet) who I am really close with, the kinda close where you can have massive arguments but later in the day you are best buds again because it hurts.

BUT he is a bit of a serial flirt always saying “luvs ya” or “love you” to other women or saying “omg I love so and so to bits” and he used to say the same with me but yet recently he never says “luv ya” or “love you” to me, even when I say it he ignores or deflects it. Every, single, time. (He knows I like him but knew that for ages before he stopped saying ‘love you’ so I don’t think it’s that)

A couple of my friends think it’s because he really does have real feelings and doesn’t know how to handle them because he’s so used to playing around but I think it’s because he has just drifted away from me and doesn’t see me as such a close friend.

I dunno, I’m tired and rambling but - in your experience, do guys ever pull back from women when they “catch feelings” cos all I’ve ever been told is that they will chase.

How is being less affectionate with you meaning that he has feelings for you? It all seems too complicated. If you were my friend I'd encourage you to find someone else and leave him to it. Find someone who openly, unabashedly wants to be with you.

If you are having massive arguments before you have even explored the possibility of a relationship I really wouldn't bother.

There is nothing romantic or enjoyable about massive arguments and feeling hurt

Themyscira see that’s what I think, but those particular couple of friends are so insistent that he’s so different with me it must mean something!
I’m staying friends with the guy, he’s a good friend to me, and I’m not so invested in him that I can’t be around him cos if my feelings.
But yeah someone who is more open is better.

weirdsmell It depends what you call massive arguments - I have PMDD so I tend to have massive arguments over stupid stuff with EVERYONE at certain time of the month, mostly lashing out at those I get closest to. But unlike many other friends he sticks by me.

So there’s this guy I like in an online chat group (who I have met once before at a group meet) who I am really close with, the kinda close where you can have massive arguments but later in the day you are best buds again because it hurts

Maybe this is your problem, the arguements might be normal for you because of Pmdd (you mentioned in your third post of this thread that you have massive arguements and lash out at those closest to you)

But look at it from his perspective, maybe he wants a friend who isn't always arguing with him over the smallest things...that would get tiring quick...maybe that could be why he is pulling back from you, it might be emotionally draining to be in arguements and then having to makeup...he's probably tired of the drama, and is taking a step back for his own sake...

If it's causing you argue and lash out maybe you could.go speak to your Dr and see if there is anything they could do/recommend...as it's not healthy for you or fair on the one on the receiving end to be arguing so much

Ilovenutellaaaaa you are probably so right. I have been to the docs but they only offered me the pill which I tried but couldn’t get on with. I’ve recently tried CBD which takes the edge of at least.