Rules for living in an attached house or flat

[Dollymixture22]

I wanted an early night tonight - in bed listening to neighbours thump about next door. The bloke is singing at the top of his lungs. They had a yelling at match earlier and someone is slamming a door repeatedly.

I grew up in a semi detached house. My mum drummed rules into us to make sure we were considerate neighbours -

Never vacuum after 8pm
Never shout from downstairs to upstairs at night or early in the morning.
Don’t blare the tv.
Music was low in the evening and we used headphones after 9pm.
Never slam doors
Never sit outside the house with the car running for more than a couple, of minutes.
Never toot the car horn to get attention.
Never cut grass before 10am on Saturday or 11am on Sunday.

While a bit uptight, I still live by these rules. I really really wish my neighbours did.

Anyone else have house rules on noise for the benefit of the neighbours?

I’ve never thought of it as s set of rule but sounds like basic courtesy.

Never shag screaming at the top of your voices with the bed head banging against the wall after 11.00pm.

Nat - not on the mothers list, but one I wish the neighbours lived by🤢

It all boils down to "don't be a dick".

Applies to most life situations really

Not have a blazing row several times a week at 1am. And I have good walls and don’t hear much. But man can the women next door screech. He doesn’t trust her apparently and he thinks she has cheated. Waiting for the next instalment.

I try to stick to these - not always easy when you have teenagers though! I’ve tried to instill some understanding in them though!

My mother had this problem, compounded by a loud dog barking and then being shouted at.

It's common decency, sadly lacking these days.

There's another useful thread running at the moment about installing sound-proofing. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/property/3745892-advice-on-sound-proofing-a-room-please

We live in a terrace and while I personally love hearing a bit of neighbour noise. We've had some neighbours before that really were awful. Violence, screaming, blasting music at all hours. It was awful.

When we moved our new neighbours thought we were nightmare neighbours and ended up moving shortly after. We don't play music without headphones, don't have the TV loud, don't have fights or anything. But our kids playing in daytime hours(not allowed to shout obviously) and the occasional night waking (which they were not left to cry it out during) was too much for them. I hope they were able to move to a detached place because they clearly were very sensitive to sound. That situation was just one of those things, but it highlighted to me that no matter how considerate you are, how much you walk in eggshells in your own home, you'll still be intrusive to some people.

Thank goodness our current neighbours are a young couple with a baby. We're all able to relax knowing the other side isn't bothered by child noise.

I have the same rules as you. Accompanied by don’t let under school age kids rampage round the house like a herd of rampaging elephants after 9pm at night just because you don’t work and put them to bed after dinner, like normal working people to ensure they get a good night’s sleep, but wait and put them down the same time as you as it gives you a long lie the next morning.

One I wish my noisy neighbours would respect! They slam all doors and my pictures rattle. They are heavy sleepers and the kids cry at night and they don’t hear. I hear though. Arseholes.

I think the trick is either to live somewhere detached or one of those rare places with amazing soundproofing. First place I moved into out of my family home was semi detached. Neighbours had a baby and I sear I never heard it. I then naively thought that all attached places were the same. Found out the hard way this isn’t true.

Ended up buying a very small detached 2 bed house. Mind my worst neighbour situation was in a detached house so nothing is guaranteed.

I would love to live in a detached house, however simply not affordable in my city for me unfortunately.

I have no problems with kids playing or crying, they are just normal household noises. It’s the deliberate and inconsiderate stuff that makes my teeth itch😊.

The second night my new neighbours lived next door a man arrived and started using an electric drill on the party wall at 11pm on a week night. It’s been down hill ever since.

@Dollymixture22 mine does all sorts of stuff when there little one is in bed. Ugh.