My mother WWYD

[bananaramadramas]

My mum has seemingly no boundaries. It was my daughters birthday on Friday and she asked why my DD's dad wasn't there (we've been split up 3 years). I said because I didn't invite him. This wasn't enough of an explanation for her, so after the party she text him to ask him why he wasn't invited.

This seems a bit trivial I know, but there are so many examples of her doing things similar to this. I don't know how to deal with her anymore. If I confront her, she'll turn it round on me (it'll be I'm looking for an argument, etc). She always digs me out about how she doesn't get to see my DD very much (she text my DDs Dad to tell him that too), as I've gone lowish contact with her already. What do I do?

Oh how infuriating why on earth does she keep doing it when it's so inappropriate and annoying. Can you pick a good moment and try and talk calmly to her about it ?

I had just this situation with my mum. She text my ex many times ( he had put me in hospital!). I asked her to stop and she said she would but didnt . I had couselling in the end as i was distraught at her lack of loyalty and actual need to please him ! Fast forward- i no longer see my mum as she made my life so difficult betraying me and in the end my children too. I now feel calm and relaxed and we are a v happy family. I realise my mum tried to keep me down for years because she is jealous that i left an abusive man sonething she never had the guts to do ( my dad was also abusive and selfish) . She now spends her life criticising me and rewriting the truth . Im so happy without any of the drama and have now achieved so much as i dont live with self doubt.