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Whats the most ridiculous reason for someone ignoring you?

69 replies

Tinaarena · 18/11/2019 14:21

I currently am being ignored by a good friend.

Im going through a very recent break up with my ex, I saw him Saturday and we got into a heated discussion. I met up with friend Saturday afternoon and told her I didnt want to go over it right there and then as it upsets me.

fast forward to yesterday, I received a text and forgot to reply immediately (was just getting served in a shop as I read it) it was 3/4 hours before she text again to tell me "I suck, as a friend I was there for you but you cant even reply to my texts, you made me feel like a good friend but then have left me hanging for 4 hours".

So now im being ignored... please tell me theres a worse reason out there than this because I cant quite believe my once sane lovely friend is behaving like this!

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jess3817 · 18/11/2019 18:03

When I was 15 my step dad didn't speak to me for 3 months - with the exception of xmas and boxing days as we had people over - because during a conversation I said oh dont be stupid ( it was said in jest, we were having a joke) yep 3 months.

Currently being ignored by one of my closest running friends, we usually run twice a week at whatever time suits her. I asked one time if we could make one run slightly earlier and now after a few weeks of being told every excuse why she can't run with me at anytime, she's ignoring me. Not sure what I've done wrong, so leaving g well alone. Bit gutted really.

fleapriest · 18/11/2019 18:06

After reading this; I'm coming to the conclusion that some people are just bastard twunts.

There doesn't have to be a reason or a why to understand their behaviour.

Bastards

Growingexponentially · 18/11/2019 18:08

Because I had another daughter and she had another son.

spoonfulofsalt · 18/11/2019 18:24

A male colleague at my previous internship place started ignoring me after he found out that I had a girlfriend and that it was a 'proper' relationship?! Absolute bollocks.

dancerdog · 18/11/2019 18:39

A work colleague - and friend, I thought - saw a new promoted post suddenly appear on a staff structure and stopped speaking to me for 3 weeks. We were both in our 40s ffs.

For clarity, it wasn't a job I was going to get, and definitely not one she was going to get. In fact, the post never even became reality.

It was baffling, like she thought I had something to do with senior management proposing a job at a higher grade.

I challenged her as to why she was being like that, ( we sat beside each other) and she had no answer. I decided to take it in my stride, when she started speaking again I spoke back but never gave much of myself again.

IckyIsAFuckingStupidWord · 18/11/2019 18:45

Because I wouldn’t let him in front of me as he tried to barge in in a filter lane of traffic.

He does that regularly because he thinks it’s funny but this occasion, he’s taken it bad that he couldn’t get his way and has called me a crazy bitch and said (quote) “I will remember this; elephants don’t forget”.

I live now in slight terror of being murdered by him semi joke

Silentnight87 · 18/11/2019 19:00

We were going to a family function, picked up mil but was running an hour or so late. Mil got in car, don't day hi or anything. We were alone in the car whilst my husband sorted out the house alarm which was playing up.

No hi, nothing. Explained we were late as my gran was in hospital with suspected cholecystitis and would need an operation etc, so was on the phone to my mum a while. Apologised for being late etc. She said nothing. After about ten minutes of a one sided conversation and me trying to get something out of her. Her response was "my sister will be upset that we're late"

She's not a nice person.. when I vented at her all the shitty things she's done, she turned on the waterworks and made herself into a victim...

OddestSock · 18/11/2019 19:04

She had a cat that she said was female. I pointed out that it had testicles. When she took it to the vet for vaccinations, the vet indeed confirmed the cat was male.

She bitched about me like crazy to everyone, as if I had somehow changed the sex of her cat and didn't speak to me for a week.

It was always a very difficult friendship, and I'm happily out of it now.

TheSecretJeven · 18/11/2019 19:10

A thankfully ex-colleague complained about me sending an email to HR with my new address "instead of doing my work". I was on my lunch break but they threateb

TheSecretJeven · 18/11/2019 19:12

Threatened to tell our manager that I was slacking off. They never spoke to me again no loss.

Mammaaofxx · 18/11/2019 19:14

This is awkward 😂 I'm currently blanking another parent(we weren't friends just a hello as we passed) because she copied my daughters very unique name. Yes I know I'm being a twat but i cant seem to get over it. Poor girl doesnt know what shes done I dont think 🙈🙈

Silentnight87 · 18/11/2019 19:16

Also I should add. She never asked how she was doing until a good few hours later when surrounded by her own family, to make it appear she was a nice caring person.

wineisnecessary · 18/11/2019 19:20

My brother doesn't speak to me or my dh & dc because I went nc with my dad . Even though he knows the sort of mental abuse I've had off him over the years . He said what if something happened to him and blocked me Hmm. Ok I'll just put up with the nasty messages and occasionally the silent treatment just because I may have dared to disagree with him so that 1 day something may happen to him. Dear brother you are very much welcome to look after him in his old age and I won't feel any guilt .

Ellieboolou33 · 18/11/2019 19:26

My dad is ignoring me after I asked him if it was true that I had a half brother (he told my cousin I had one) Confused

SassenachWitch · 18/11/2019 19:27

My brother doesn’t speak to me, because his wife drank 3 bottles of wine in 2 hours, and started screaming in my face, in my own home, I didn’t react but chose to step away for a few weeks, then accepted their apology, and congratulated them on her pregnancy, I haven’t been spoken to now for nearly 2 years.

OhWellThatsJustGreat · 18/11/2019 19:27

My dad refused to talk to me for a fortnight when he found out I had got a tattoo...

I was 18 and it was the most rebellious thing I've ever done, and quite literally the only "you live in my house, you live by my rules" rule I broke 😂

It did also cause one of only 3 major rows my parents have ever had, 2 of them being about me. In 30 years of marriage, I would say that's pretty good stats.

cushioncovers · 18/11/2019 19:31

A friend of mine once emailed me a photo of his new pet rabbits. I ignored them for 2 days because I was so busy. He blocked me on our equivalent of whatsapp.

He is a criminal court judge.

GrinGrin

ManorMouse · 18/11/2019 19:31

My ex never spoke to me for 2 days once because I cheated on him in a dream.

A formerly very close friend once blanked me for several days as I'd been very unhelpful when she had a bad dream.

Apparently, I should have known that she was having a nightmare, despite me living several streets away, as I was in her dream so should have woken up and called round in the middle of the night to see if she was okay.

Me pointing out that none of this made a bit of sense only made matters worse.

Daytimetellysucks · 18/11/2019 19:35

MiL didn’t speak to us for 3 months because we already had garden swings

She’d bought a set of swings for the kids for Christmas - DH reminded her we already had a swing/climbing frame/seasaw thing (that FiL had actually helped us build that summer) she stormed out and refused to speak to any of us for 3 months

headlock · 18/11/2019 20:33

My best friend growing up gave me the silent treatment when I got my first steady boyfriend. She also went in a strop once because I wasn't concerned enough about her losing her contact lens in a night club. 🙄

Rubychard · 18/11/2019 20:41

High maintenance friend.
Has been distinctly off with me since I said I didn’t want to go to the same exercise classes any more. And explained why - perfectly legit reason - nothing to do with her. I’m not sure it’s a loss.

motortroll · 18/11/2019 21:09

Not a close friend but my "yoga buddy" who I always sit next to at yoga and chat had a conversation with me a few weeks ago when I told her I was leaving my job and having a break before looking for another. She then went very quiet and after a bit got up and moved her mat!! Hasn't spoken to me or yoga'd next to me since. Charming!

prampushingdownthehighst · 18/11/2019 21:45

Many many years ago my friend stopped speaking to me because I had visited Hayle in Cornwall and didn't think much of it really.
Her grandparents had a caravan there and it was the best place on earth according to friend.
We have not spoken since....going on about 30 years now!

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 18/11/2019 22:01

Because I was better at the job than she was. She couldn't bear it...

ClapHandsAndSaveTheFairies · 18/11/2019 22:11

I'm pretty sure I'm at the start of someone not talking to me.

But considering why they would be avoiding me, and what happened which I can't detail as it's outing, it'll be a huge relief if the silence continues. Give me time to recharge my very overspent batteries which she drains.

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