Is this my fault or hers?

[Jinglebells10]

My mum text this morning saying she would be round later as she had a headache this morning. This was at 8am. I've nipped out to the doctors as I'm not well. She just rung saying she's at mine. She didn't text to say she was on her way. Now she's annoyed at me because I didn't text her first. I don't feel I've done anything wrong as she said she would be later not 2 hours? Am ibu?

Yanbu she needed to be less presumptuous and more specific to guarantee you would be in. Later could mean anything.

You should have let her know you were going out definitely.

I feel like it this was a friend you wouldn't just drive round without telling them a time frame or specific time would you?

Why didn't you text her to say you were popping out?

Yes I would if I had arranged to go and see them later. Later to me means any time after we had arranged to meet.

If someone said they'd be round later, surely you'd say "no worries, I've got to pop to the doctors at 10am but should be home by half past"

You knew she was coming just not exactly when. She didn't know you were going out and as you hadn't mentioned it she assumed you'd be in. It would have taken you 2 seconds to text her and save her standing on your doorstep like a lemon.

she has done as she said & popped round later instead of popped round now - 2 hours later is later, you should of just said you would be popping to the doctors at whatever time

A miscommunication I would say. If someone told me they would be over later and I had plans to be out at any point, I would mention that to be honest. I would also expect whoever was coming to offer a better timeframe than “later” though.

You were both a bit unreasonable. Your DM should have been more specific about time, or at the very least sent a text to say she was leaving to make sure you were around. On the other hand, if you knew she'd be popping in 'later' it would have been polite to send a brief text to say "nipping out to the doctors so won't be in for half an hour".

May be a miscommunication. I arranged doctors after she text me as I felt pretty bad. I prob should have text but assumed I wouldn't be long and she would be over at a later time

When you assume you make an ass of you and me. You both assumed, you're both asses
I think this is purely poor communication.

You should have told her you were going out.

Rearranging a doctors appointment last minute is worse. They won't have been able to give the appointment to anyone else.

Sorry OP, you were both unreasonable but you slightly more so. 'Later' technically is covering the 2 hours later slot. Your mum should have been more specific, but the real unreasonablness here was you not texting her to say you'd be at the doctors for a short while.

Just a little hiccup though, hopefully you can both easily put this behind yourselves and agree to communicate a little better.