Does anyone want to help me change my life?
Well actually, 6 months ago I made the first change and left my husband. One of the reasons (there were many) was how anti social he is, and by default how small my life had become. I had become jealous of friends with large circles of friends with busy houses full of people. Now I'm free of him, how do I go about making it a reality?
Especially at this time of year I notice my kids do not have the big family parties to attend for example.
I have fond memories of spending time with my aunties and uncles, cousins etc at this time of year.
My difficulties excuses are as follows:
I'm now moved out to a small flat. Too small for parties?? Only really comfy seating for three adults. Plus dining table to seat 4.
My family are far away. DM and DF visit but they're not exactly the life and soul as far as my DC are concerned.
I have one brother who does not live near and doesnt have kids. He's married and is actually a great uncle. My DS in particular likes him a lot.
One of my close friends with kids near in age is very outgoing and friendly and tbh is one who's lifestyle I'd like to emulate. But she's married to STBXH best friend. She's an excellent friend but I'm not sure, do I invite them both if I was to host at my place? There's not much room for kids to run about, or slope off and chill.
My other close friend has 3 kids all 6 and under. I think they'd be totally hemmed in here if we were all here.
I just don't know how to move on and make the life I want? I've stopped organising anything like this because STBXH hated it and made it miserable for me. I've forgotten what to do!
Maybe I could start with a girls night? Close friends, some mum friends I know slightly less well too? Could be a good way to say thanks as I've had loads of practical and moral support.
Anyone got any ideas?