So lonely

[fluckityfluckfluck]

It's so hard being strong. I'm tired of being alone when my kids are at his. When is this going to get easier

Mumsnet?

How long has the arrangement been going for?

How often are the DC at your ex's?

Lots of solutions but only you know what is right for you! Is this a new break up? Do you feel ready to move on and carve out a new life for yourself or are you still getting over him? How often does he have them?

I’m in the same position.

Do you have family nearby?

It has taken me 8 months of ‘being alone’ to get vaguely used to it. How new is it to you?

I'm three years in. Share custody and struggle so much without the dc. No family in this country, lots of friends but they all have their own stuff

Do you have any hobbies or things you can do through the day?

You need a single friend. Hunt some down.

10 years for me..... and I enjoy my free time.

Sunday is the worst day for me .

Walking . Cinema. Garden . Read .

They are all lonely pursuits but can take your mind off things.

I'm with @Snowman123
When ex and I split, I surrounded myself with loads of single friends who were dealing with the same shit and stresses as I was. These weren't people that I was particularly friendly with prior (for no reason other than we just weren't in each other's circles), look for those women, they will be feeling the same as you. Get busy, get hobbies, get out and have fun. Do all those things that you don't get the opportunity to do while you're 'mum'.

Thanks all. I know. It's just a bad day x

Volunteer somewhere.
I bet there’s lots of elderly people whose kids are scattered around the country who’d love someone to pop in and make a cuppa for.
When my mum got dementia and it was getting harder to take her out someone used to pop in once a week with a book of our town as it was when mum was young and they’d have a good old chat.

The fact that you could go on a Sunday when was lot of weekend community serviceS close down could be a boon for a lonely person

Also isn’t the Nhs asking for volunteers.
I hope you manage to find something that fills that gap
Or could you look into childminding for people who have to work weekends