Bereavement

[Angelica16]

My dad died yesterday and all I did was cry as he died but today when I woke up I felt like it didn’t happen and didn’t feel good or bad just fine. I know that when my head catches up and realises he’s dead I’ll breakdown but how do I deal with that. I just turned 16 and his will be the first funeral I’ve gone to and the first person I know to die, I really dont know what to do.

I’m so very sorry for your loss

There is nothing I can say to make this easier to deal with. But talk to people who knew your dad. Share stories and memories. Don’t feel bad for smiling or laughing. Don’t feel bad for crying.

The pain it costs in grief is one thing we have to bear for the joy we found in their love.

I’m sorry. I’m rubbish at comforting words but didn’t want to read and not say anything.

Sorry for your loss. Give yourself the time and space to grieve and look after yourself. Sending gentle hugs

So sorry for you loss .
Have you got family support?
Was it sudden or expected?.
Either way it's always a huge shock. When my Dad died suddenly I remember the first few days I was walking round in a blur, utter disbelief and I didn't cry for days. Then it hit me. There is no right or wrong way to grieve so nothing you do or feel is wrong.
There are websites to support teenagers dealing with grief where you can chat with others of a similar age. I'm sorry, I don't know how to link.
I imagine you're year 11 at school? You'll need support there too so when you're ready to tell the teachers reach out to them and most schools have some form of counselling.
I hope you have support in real life x

I lost my dad Thursday and I'm still feeling numb, I'm truly sorry for your loss, I was there holding his hand and the first two nights I kept waking and seeing him as he died, today when I think of him I remember the lovely chat we had Wednesday before I cry, I hope you have someone in real life you can talk to, it's OK to cry
but it's also OK not to, nobody can tell you how to feel

He was already in hospital but was actually looking good and it was when we got a call at 3 in the morning saying that he took a turn and would soon pass away. From there for 6 hours we held his hand and waited for him to die. The worst part was when he took his last breath then slowly faded, I don’t think I’ll ever get that out of my head

And at the end he will know that he was loved. It may not feel a comfort for you at the moment - how could it? - but it is something you will be able to look back on, knowing that you gave him the most precious gift in the world

You're in shock, OP. Grief will find you when you're ready to let it in. And there's no right or wrong way to grieve. It's part of the process of healing and you have to do it your way.

I hope you have support.

So very sorry for your loss.

Sorry to read of your dads passing, take every day as it comes. There are no rules when dealing with grief

Op mine died on Friday. I feel fine. I don’t want to feel fine. No one else is fine.

My friend told me it’s unexpected moments that just suddenly happen. She said when it does, let go, have a huge sob/scream/wail and let it out. And you will feel better. You won’t if you hold it in.

But I know what you are saying about feeling fine. I shouldn’t feel this way. I do however feel sick, so very very sick 😞

Yes but is it really just shock that’s making me feel fine and then when that goes away how do I deal with this