Reassure me....

[BertrandRussell]

...if you had 4 17/18 year olds, one of them yours, sleeping over at your house and they absolutely had to be out of the house at 10.30 you’d make sure they were, wouldn’t you? Even though they are adults and should be responsible for themselves etc etc etc?

Yes, I would.

Hell yes I would.

When they are knackered and fast asleep one of mine is hell to wake up, utterly lovely and polite the rest of her life and a delight but she doesn't do mornings...

Oh well, I can only hope!

Granted dc is now really an adult and able to make adult choices, but if a young and stupid 18 year old, I’d be making sure the host knew how important it was for dc to be out the door and telling her ‘just do what you need to do to get the little shit out his bed. Open curtains play music whatever and phone me if he’s not up by 9.30am and I’ll come and drag him out myself’. Kind of thing.

If it was THAT important. Say a job interview for his dream job. But if it’s just ‘nana and papa are expecting him for lunch and they’ll be cross if he’s not there at noon’ if let him face the consequences. He has to learn responsibility at some point!

PS if the host says she wasn’t comfortable going into his room to wake him up id accept that. He could be sleeping naked or whatever.

These kind of things need to be discussed prior.

Her son was one of the 4 and they were all sleeping in the same room. But it’s OK- they made it. Phew!