How do your social media ‘memories’ make you feel?

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I don’t post on social media very often anymore but god did I used to!
Memories pop up on my feed and I get tempted to look back for that particular day.
I’m ok with anything from 2014 onwards but 2013 was the worst year of my life so I either skim over it or torture myself reading through it. 2012 is okish territory
But before that eugh. I can see patterns of poor mental health, I can see how utterly sad and desperate I was at times. I can see when I’ve had a crush on someone a decade ago and have been slyly (or pretty flipping obviously) trying to get their attention. I can see where I was trying to get friends attention if I had a bleak looking weekend on the cards as I don’t cope with boredom easily
Basically lots of attention seeking
It’s so cringe worthy

Anyone else put themselves through this or is it just me?

I love most of them but it's amazing how they can trigger memories. The period when I was on my own a lot with a toddler before my ex husband left is particularly poignant, when I look at photos I took of the toddler on his own at various places and remember how lonely I felt.

I don't feel any of those feelings at all. But then I've never used SM in the way you have. I've only ever posted happy times.

I have 2 periods of my life that I don't want to be reminded of but only one is on Sm and the fact is, it is part of my life!

I feel very nostalgic. The earlier ones are usually about my youngest (my eldest was before I was really using SM) so there’s lots of lovely memories of him being a chunky toddler. I can almost smell his lovely smell in some of them.

There’s also a few PA ones that make me cringe...

It’s awful isn’t it. I don’t know why we do it to ourselves but the temptation is always there for me
Then you get the posts featuring dead relatives or pets
I do try to avoid looking at early 2013 when my life just fell apart . I have started to delete certain things when they pop up

Absolutely the same as you, OP! Just awful awful awful.

My biggest issue with time hop photos is how bad my eyebrows used to be. There we all are, made up to the hilt, usually including some hair extensions and mini dresses and we all look absolutely bald of brow. It’s terrifying.

Appreciate this is slightly lighter hearted than some other responses but basically, it’s just funny to see how different we all look in only about 5 years

I do cringe at some of the stuff I posted BUT.. everyone else on there did the same! Just remember that. Social media use has changed.. it used to be a constant stream of thoughts and banal activities and now seems to be more photos, check-ins and sharing funny stuff.

@ShirleyPhallus haha yeah so many photos . There’s hardly any photos of me from the last few years. I rarely allow a tag anymore
Mind 2013 might have been the worst but appearance wise was the best. the stress causes my weight to plummet and I was making extra efforts to look good so all the photos look great

I'm get you but I'm opposite timewise. 2010-2012 was my absolute golden era.2014-2015 metaphorically for me is a mountain of shit and vomit in the figurative sense

My life fell apart in 2014 VERY early on - the only shafts of light came end of Decemberthat year

I love them, they are a living history of our son, how small he was (today is World Prematurity Day) and how much he has grown and achieved since. In the nittygritty of everyday life it's sometimes difficult to recognise that he has progressed, so the memories help me to get perspective.

They also remind me that my job used to be good, that I used to love doing it; and hopefully might do again when the current management regime gives up and leaves

@caravanette same for me in 2013 . Well it actually started on my bd late 2012 when my parents split up for the final time , but then the shit really hit the fan in early January . Wasnt until December that I caught a break .

I know exactly what you mean OP. I spent a long time going into my daily memories and deleting those that triggered bad memories. Those times are still part of me but I don't need to be reminded every year that 'on this day you felt like an absolutely shite parent/human/employee"

Just delete.

It would also appear that I used to be quite witty and funny . Seems I don’t make any effort in that department anymore , in RL or online

I hate mine sometimes. From the last couple of years are okay, but before that I had a very abusive ex, and he would make me post happy things all the time to make my family believe I was really happy living with him. So all those come up.

I should just go through and delete them, but that would mean scrolling back a lot and I just can't face it.

You can now hide memories including certain people though, so I've got rid of the majority with him in them - though I had to unblock him to do it, as you can't find their name if you've blocked them, which I think is stupid.. as it's really likely they will be blocked if there's someone you don't want to see anything of, isn't it?

I view mine with a sort of bittersweet sadness - lots of happy memories but also have a bit of a sigh at seeing the DCs so young and sweet and relatively straightforward. I've always been more of a SM lurker than a poster though so there isn't really a lot. I am grateful for the photos though - I seldom print any, so it's nice to see them again.

I’ve just had another look and and on this day in 2013 I posted a load of photos of my parents cat, I know why I was doing it. It was so my dad could see them as he missed him and could see he was ok as dm used to try and use him as a weapon against df . (I’ll get him put down etc) horrid woman

The make me feel old as I see how quickly time passes.

ime, I don't see 'bad' moments on FBk. Not unless it's politics. People don't post their crap so crap can't pop up. I have a cousin who lost custody of her children for a while (maybe still doesn't have it). You can only figure that out from reading between the lines some of the replies to her posts (posts that don't even have pics). Another FBk friend is in anguish about IVF not working; she mentions it but doesn't post with pics so not a 'memory' pop up for the future.

Someone posted an announcement they had breast cancer & we all posted support so that could be mixed memory, I guess. (She's doing fine right now, btw).

Do deleted events pop up? It's not hard to delete things you don't want to be reminded of.

Pop ups don't trigger anything for me except "Gosh, was it really that long ago/ that recent?" & "Wow they haven't changed!" etc.

My posts are 95% photos of my cats now and it’s nice looking back over those. We’ve already decided we aren’t doing to put any photos of dc on, apart from one for the birth announcement.

I never posted much and only special stuff so my family at the Olympics and holiday pics and even then a couple at most. Costumes I had made and a very occasional pet photo featured as well.

Old.
But also some pop up from when my mum was dying 6 years ago and they take me right back to that gut wrenching, heartbreaking period of my life.

Surprised when it reminds me that 11 years have passed since I moved abroad (been back for 3 years now).

Sad and a bit embarrassed when the 2012-13 memories pop up. I lost my DP in 2012 and the year directly following it was a mess.