Does anyone else feel like they just don't fit?

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Forgive me, I'm a little drunk. Does anyone else feel like they are never anyone's priority? Like they never quite fit it? Like they're clearly doing something wrong socially but not quite sure what? I've just been 'invited' to local quiz, 'friends' joined another team, leaving me with perfectly nice people I didn't really know. Another friend bailed last minute. This week I invited people to theatre, cinema, shopping trips, many didn't even bother responding or if they did were too busy to go. I constantly have other children over, try to equip my kids with the right social skills but am failing myself. Have cried pathetically tonight. I need to cut my losses don't I ? Feeling better rejected and inadequate, how do you move on and be happy in your own company? Any mantras I can borrow to get through this?

Haha the irony. Never mind, it was quite self pitying I guess.

Don’t forget it’s the middle of the night!

But yes, I can relate

Relatable. But it's gone bed time here. Drink never helps. Get some sleep and gave a think tomorrow. I had this years ago so I stopped inviting people and changed my friendship group. Much better now!

Yes I feel like this all the time... but my consolation is that everyone else does too.

Everyone is selfish, everyone’s time is precious and very rarely are things actually personal.

Your friends would be mortified if they thought you were upset about their lack of response ... they just didn’t think

And I’m sure you would probably act the same way in their shoes

So I just try to enjoy the company of my family and my really really close friends and take everything else as it comes

I caveat The above with a general disclaimer that you should cut ties with people who blatantly take the piss

Hi - couldn’t read & not reply. I feel for you - we never know what’s going on in other people’s lives & it may be just thoughtlessness on their part. This can be a busy time of year. Don’t give up - maybe try asking people directly one-on-one - you might get a better response face to face rather than via text/social media. Tomorrow is another day - hope you feel better.

Thanks for the responses, in current pathetic emotional state, it means a lot.

Frequently. I'm as relatable as the current prime minister and about as unpopular but that's because I'm a useless failure who shouldn't exist.

I’m sure that’s not true @anxioussue

Yes, I feel this way too.

I got fed up feeling rejected, let down or disappointed at other people's ambivalence towards me, so I no longer bothered with them.

I now effectively have no friends. There are two people that might drop an e-mail every 12-18 months from years ago, but they live in other countries now so not really 'let's go out' mates.

It is so upsetting when you know you're not one of the 'inner circle' who arrange things or plan events and are just one of the "I suppose we better invite my name last minute, when the event has been planned for weeks.

Yet when I try to organise an event, only one person replies with a maybe.

I just don't bother anymore.