Getting my name wrong despite knowing what it is?

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My neighbours are really lovely. We get along well. There's mum, dad and adult daughter. The problem is, they keep calling me another name. It's a different version of mine. Think, Marie when my name is Maria.

I've corrected them in the past, DH always emphasises my "a" part and repeats my name a few times when in conversation and they're even on my Facebook which has my name clear as day.

So, what on Earth is that about? I always say their names correctly so it's not a PA thing. It's like they've renamed me and that's it. It's my new name now.

They're really lovely people and I have no intention of falling out over it (as simple polite pointing it out has been done loads already) but it's bugging the crap out of me.

Does this happen to anyone else?
Or better yet, I would love to hear from anyone who calls someone by a different name to theirs despite knowing what it is. Why do that?

Ex did it because he thought it was funny. Another did it because they thought they knew better. Another did it because they were thick as mince and couldn't comprehend the difference.

Examples included 'Her name is Anne. Nothing else. She really hates it when people can't be bothered to say her name correctly'. 'Oh, hello - An-NA' (smirking all the time).

'Her name is Arianna'. 'Oh, Ah-ry-AHRN-ah'. 'Ari-an-na'. 'It's pronounced Ah-ry-AHRN-ah, you'll find'. 'It really isn't'.

'Mary/Marie/Marry/Mare!' 'It's Mhairi'. 'Huh? OK, Mary'.

I have a friend who used to be Sophie at college.she goes by Sophia now and I have to really really think before saying her name. Same with Diane and Diana for someone else. Sometimes something sticks and you know there are two versions but can’t remember which

I know two girls called Mya and Mia, who are about the same age, and who I see every now and then - similar relationship to neighbours.
I know that they are different names and I know which is which, yet I continually call each of them the wrong name. I have no idea why. It isn't a nasty thing on my part - I m mortified whenever I do it, i just seem to have some sort of mental block.
Maybe your neighbour has the same thing ?

I wondered if it was that (not remembering which out of two names) but but they'll still say it even immediately after DH has just said (and emphasised) it.

DH: "Oh neighbour, Maria has a parcel for you"
Neighbour: "Great thanks, I'll go see Marie now."
DH: (WTF face) "Um okay, MariA's in kitchen."

It's so stupid. I often get two sisters names mixed up but I either try not to say it if I'm not sure or I correct myself and apologise when I do.

It just seems bloody weird. And if I'm honest, quite rude. It's not like it's a nick name, it's a different name in itself.

My daughter's name is Miranda. I've lost track of the number of people who call her Amanda. Including her own grandmother

I have NO idea why this happens

It's rude but maybe it's not intentional ? My Dad has always been known as a shortened version of his name so he's " Robert" and goes by "Rob" but his neighbour has been calling him "Bobbie"for about 20 years now, nobody else calls him "Bobbie" but it's been going on for too long for him to correct her now.

My dear friend is a Marie and it's the bane of her life, especially professionally.

She has a title now so goes by title -surname (ironically she has a rather difficult to pronounce surname but people fare better with that!)

Just change their names slightly. See you they like it!

*see how

My MIL always gets DD2s name wrong in a very similar way. She is a lovely woman but quite scatty. We used to correct her but it made no difference. DD2 is in her twenties now and we’ve got so used to MIL we don’t even notice the mistake anymore.

If it isn’t coming from a position of malice or racism I’d ignore it.

My name is frequently mispronounced.... Probably more than its pronounced correctly. Its actually never bothered me as I don't think there is any malicious intent in getting my name wrong. I do find it odd though as it's a super simple name.

I have this problem. I dislike the version of my name they use and I have politely chilled in with my actual name when they say "hey Christine how are you?" And l say "it's Christy, remember?" But with a smile a d they usually apologise. It is a bit annoying.

My father in law used to call my son by a longer version of his name - say we have "Chris" on the birth certificate, he would call him "Christopher". He hated the fact we'd used a "nickname" instead of a "proper" name.

I have no advice op,but you have my sympathy!