Giving things away

[LadyLanka]

In December I will see my younger niece and her boyfriend.
My late husband was very fond of her and she liked him as well.
I would like to give her my "real" engagement ring.
My husband gave me the sapphire on our first holiday together. I bought the diamonds.
I have actually worn it only about 5 times in the last 23 years.
Is this weird or OK?

It depends on a few things.

Do you have children? If so I think that would be very hurtful for them.

It could also be seen as you saying there's a special relationship between you and that niece (you obviously have more than one) which could be hurtful to the older one too.

Also bear in mind that she may not like it. Just because it is special to you, doesn't mean it will be to her.
In dh's family someone did similar, gave it to one of the grandchildren because they happened to see them at a relevant time. They melted it down and used the stones for earrings. Caused a lot of hurt from some of the others who had at least a close a relationship with her and would have liked the ring as it was because it was special to them. All the first gdd saw was its value and what she could get from it.

If however there is a reason why your relationship with her is special (maybe goddaughter) and you know she likes the ring, then it could be lovely.

We didn't have any children.
My elder niece (and goddaughter) will get my official engagement ring and other pieces of family jewellery - for example from her great-grandmother.