How do you deal with them?
There's a woman I've known for years (A), we're in the same friendship group - some of us are closer to others and we all do things in smaller groups etc though if there's a bigger event we would always invite each other (birthdays, theatre trips etc). We're all late 40s/early 50s and rub along nicely together (normally).
I've been in the company of this one particular woman many times when she's telling someone something and it's not at all correct. It's normally silly things that have no impact and she likes to change and 'embelish' stories, presumably to make them funnier/more interesting etc. She does it all the time and I used to doubt myself til I realised that actually it wasn't me.
However, two of the women have had a little bit of a falling out, wasn't anything too serious but has escalated as these things can, with other people sticking their oar in and getting involved when they shouldn't. I've stayed out of it - I like both women and think this is just a silly misunderstanding.
I was having lunch with one of the women when A came into the coffee shop we were in and sat with us for a coffee. She then told my friend (B) something that the other friend (C) had said about her. I was there with both A and C when this conversation took place and it didn't happen in any way as she's suggesting, so I said that at the time in a kind of 'oh I don't think that's quite what was said' kind of way and she is adamant and very convincing. She knows I was there. I know exactly what was said and it wasn't what she passed on to B who is now massively pissed off with C (they were starting to get back on track), even though I've told her again that's not what happened (C was actually being complimentary about B). She's now not talking to C at all, as a direct result of what A told her.
I asked A why she said what she did and she looked me straight in the eye and told me that's what happened and I must have misheard. She's only trying to help B etc. I think she's just shit stirring, it's not even something you could misunderstand, it's an out and out lie and I know it. A must know that I know she's lying too, so I really don't get it.
How do you deal with people like this? Sorry if this is long and confusing with all the ABC nonsense but I just feel that this is all so ridiculous. We're hardly schoolgirls and while everything tells me not to get involved, this seems very unfair on C.