Some days are just so hard being a mum

[Worththewait2019]

Do t get me wrong, my baby is all I've ever wanted and took me so so long to get him, but some days are hard.
He's 10 months and going through a phase of biting, pinching and ripping out my hair.
I'm so tired and it really drives me crazy when I've had hardly any sleep.
He's finally gone to sleep now and I'm just frying as I feel so guilty for even saying it's hard work. I feel like I have no right to moan.

*crying not frying

Everyone feels that guilt. Parenting min general is so hard at times. Some days I just want a "day off" and I feel guilty, selfish and ungrateful. My little girl will soon be 2....she has never slept through the night and she doesn't eat it's a constant battle and I work 13 hour days. I'm exhausted. I'm pretty sure every parent has had this feeling xx

Please don't feel guilty! It is honest-to-god really really really hard work, and what you're feeling is totally normal. Just because your baby is much-wanted, it doesn't mean to say that you won't frequently silently mouth a swear word at them for running you ragged! Doesn't mean you're a bad mum!

I can't help you with your current tiredness - it's really horrible, and I can remember being so tired that I would be pushing the buggy along in tears. But I promise you. It. Will. Get. Better!

I'm sure you're doing a fantastic job. Hang in there!

Thank you for that lovely message!

I was just sitting here thinking exactly your title post, having just spent over an hour getting my 1 year old to sleep. She also pinches, bites, scratches etc and has never slept through an evening let alone a night. I feel your pain! All I can say really is try to allow yourself your feelings if you can, they are completely valid. I feel pushed to tipping point on an almost daily basis and I think it helps me to recognise it's not because I'm a bad mum or a bad person, it's just a really really demanding job, and I'm spent because I care for my daughter so much. Proof we are doing a grand job if anything.

Hope you get a bit of a break this evening and perhaps a bigger break later this week if you have that support in place.

Otherwise, tomorrow is another day, hopefully with a few wee smiles in it for you both :)

Understand completely, and have felt the same many many times myself. I experienced infertility and miscarriage in my journey to motherhood and to say that my babies were much wanted, hard won etc is an understatement. I therefore felt immense guilt whenever I struggled with an aspect of motherhood or parenting and used it as a stick to beat myself with daily. I still do in fact, but am slowly trying to remind myself that however loved or wanted a child is, whatever the hurdles in conceiving them, living life in a constant state of #blessed is neither realistic nor attainable. So I understand, I really really do, especially the sentiment of feeling like you have no right to moan. I feel a constant element of survivors guilt when I think of all the women out there still trying desperately to conceive. There are so many emotions attached and I think parenting after infertility or loss can be a tricky experience psychologically.

I'm going to screen print these replies so I can read them again tomorrow and any other day when j feel like a crap mum.
I've just cried on DH and struggled to say out loud that it's hard at times. I feel ungrateful saying it out loud but you are right with your replies, being blessed 24/7 is unrealistic.

Mum guilt is the absolute WORST!! I honestly am nodding in agreement to all of the above. My children are the best things ever and I love them more than I can even contemplate but by god they drive me fucking crazy some days.

I feeling the same today. Today has been trying to say the least. I love them so much, but my goodness 4 DC is hard hard work. I am sure you are doing an amazing job, but I know what you mean. I'm shattered