Anyone noticed your friends changed when your financial circumstances improved?

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A few years ago DH started his own business which has really taken off. I have also been promoted at work and so our financial situation has dramatically improved. We have been able to move to our dream house, have better holidays etc, but I like to think that as people we are exactly the same. However, since the upturn in our finances there have been at least 3 people who I considered my good friends who have completely ghosted me. Some of my other friends no longer ever ask me or DH over to their homes any more and it all falls on us. Feeling a bit fed up.

This only happened with the ‘friends’ who used me to feel better about themselves. They began to distance themselves from me and stopped texting me after I got what they viewed as a better job than them. Pretty much after the first time I said I might not be able to make midweek after-work drinks in a city 100 miles away because of work. This is despite them cancelling on me for far smaller reasons - I even once turned up to a planned dinner after a full day at work to their hometown only to find they had cancelled and then forgotten to tell me. Realising they weren’t real friends in the first place was really freeing.

I have managed to keep a couple of true friends from before though - but that’s because they genuinely care.

I've had the opposite - people who seem unable to understand I can't afford to 'just pop down and see us' or 'just come out for dinner at [fancy restaurant]'.

Is your 'dream house' just further away from your friends/less easy to get to, I wonder?

This only happened with the ‘friends’ who used me to feel better about themselves.

This 100%

Heavens don’t get me started on the second homes . DH grew up as the only child of divorced parents and will not countenance the idea, but a lot of our richer friends seem to think it’s because we can’t afford one. They therefore constantly invite us to come and stay. We always go once out of politeness’ sake but after that they’re usually on their own! Again it’s the combination of their self-importance, the timetabled hours of endless scheduled activities they can’t seem to break out of even at weekends, and the constant chatter about shit that doesn’t matter. I don’t give two hoots about your Colefax curtains that came up two inches too short.

My sisters friend won the lottery and turned into a prize knob end. Before the win, they were really poor and my sister would treat them to take-aways/meals out at Christmas etc. Then they won about £6M. They didn't even treat my sister to a drink. Bought a very expensive house, new cars and talked about money at every opportunity. They would also put down their friends, like making fun of them for buying Asda Champagne "because nowadays we only drink the best". My sister cut them out in the end.

Hmm in my experience it's usually the other way round.