I've recently got in touch with my dad after 20+ years. He was reluctant at first but eventually took my call and we have now been talking and texting for about 6 weeks. Considering his reluctance at the start he now initiates contact and will text me to arrange when he is going to call. I'm really happy with how things are going except that he doesn't want to see me. He says he's embarrassed by how he's aged and he's worried that he's not the man I'll remember. I tried reassuring him that I'll accept him the way he is but he wouldn't change his mind. That was 6 weeks ago and although we're having good conversations he's not mentioned seeing me and I'm now too scared to bring it up again incase he feels pressured and stops taking my calls. My DH tells me to be patient and that he might change his mind but what if he doesn't? I can't imagine not meeting him. What (if anything) can I do to help change his mind? Do you think if I'm patient and give him time he might change his mind? Any advice appreciated. Thankyou in advance.