Hold my hand or just 'there there' me for a bit please

[StillMedusa]

My lovely 26 yr old DS1 met a girl nearly 4 years ago in a local venue where he was playing a gig.
They fell in love. She was on holiday from Australia...
Three months later he went to Oz and stayed there for a year, then she got a work visa came here and lived and worked with us for 2 years before she had to go back. They applied for a couples visa in February... huge cost, huge amounts of evidence needed (especially as she lived with us so no proof of them renting etc). They have missed each other dreadfully while apart since she went back in July.

She and her Mum are currently here for 4 weeks on holiday.... and today DS1 got the call that his visa has been approved... he can go live in Oz for a few years and they can marry and apply for citizenship.

I am so happy for them... she is his soul mate, she really is, and we adore her.

But my baby boy is going to the other side of the world, and all the face time, calls in the world doesn't change the fact that a little bit of my heart is breaking at the thought of him being so far away and with no return date.
He's at work and she and her Mum are out, so I am indulging myself with a little cry. I will pull myself together before they return!!!! It's just such a long way away...

Bless you such a bitter sweet time. Big hugs 🤗

Aw.....
It's tough to be so happy for them, but at the same time, dreadfully sad....

Awwww bless you. Of course you’re going to be upset he is moving away - it is natural. It’s great you’re able to support him and are happy for him despite how much you’ll miss him.

I have a sibling in Australia (not the same I know) and it’s rubbish but stuff like FaceTime really does help. All the best to your son for the move

I would feel exactly the same. That must be so hard.

Oh my, it's such a long way, and he is still your baby. But he will be so happy, and you sound like such a lovely mum, he's lucky to have you.

That is huge but you sound like a wonderful mum who won't be putting her own anxieties on to her son and his girlfriend. I think my heart would be breaking a bit too so I will offer you a 'there, there" and a cup of and a very, very large slice of .

Will you be able to go out and see them?

A big virtual hug for you OP. My colleague went through something similar with her DS a couple of years ago (an only child too) when he left to go to New Zealand to be with his gf. They now have a baby and she's devastated to be so far away from him and his new family. It will be incredibly hard for you to see him go but you sound like a wonderfully supportive mother, doing your best not to cause him any unnecessary anxiety about the move. Hope all goes well .