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Agh I feel like the worlds shittest mum

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Chairfail · 11/11/2019 11:55

Just finished a baby class with 8 month old DD. I had to speak to the person running the class at the end so by the time I did the next group was coming in.

I went to put DDs pram suit on in the corner of the room where some fold up chairs were stacked and that’s where her pushchair was. As I put her suit on she’d grabbed the bottom of the chair and it very nearly fell on her.

I feel so shit putting her in danger like that and a bloke was watching me the whole time so he probably thinks that I’m shit and that it fell on her. She screamed but wasn’t actually hit by it.

Worried the whole group will think I’m irresponsible as well

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Winterdaysarehere · 11/11/2019 11:59

On mn you aren't a proper dm until you dc has fallen off a bed!!
Seriously don't beat yourself up. Babies are very resilient.
And bouncy ime!!
And if you read your post back it says nearly fell on her!!

LochJessMonster · 11/11/2019 12:00

I imagine something similar has happened to every single one of those parents and, apart from the initial 'oops that was close', they won't give it another thought.

Various things that have happened to babies I know - nearly rolled off a chair/ fell over bumped head/hit on head with plastic toy/ pulled tv remote off table and smacked in eye with it/pulled chair over whilst using it to try and stand up.

Accidents, and near accidents, happen to every parent and every baby!

spiderlight · 11/11/2019 12:04

Oh, don't worry - you are not a shit mum! These things happen to every mum and we all feel like crap about it at the time, but she's fine, she wasn't hurt. Wait until she's crawling/toddling - then you'll be permanently fending off calamities!

At a similar age, I was playing with my DS, pulling him towards me on the bed by his legs while he giggled hysterically, and I got a bit over-enthusiastic and pulled him right off the bed onto the floor! No witnesses, admittedly, but I felt awful.

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hipposarerad · 11/11/2019 12:40

Nah, I'm a much shittier mum than that. When DS2 was about 5 months old we went on holiday to the Isle of Wight and visited the theme park at Blackgang Chine.

I sometimes suffer from dizzy spells* and was having one of my 'funny turns' on this day. I'd let DS1 cajole me to go on some little spinning ride - I shouldn't have, because I unsurprisingly felt even weirder afterwards.

DP had been carrying DS2 who was asleep and when we got to the slide he said "I've just popped him in the buggy, you do the straps, me and DS1 are going on this big slide" and promptly buggered off.

I looked at DS2 and he was, I thought, fast asleep. I felt an immediate hot flush and thought I'd have time to whip my coat off, because I thought if I don't I'm going to go over.

But I'm a clumsy doofus anyway and this is compounded when I go weird. I was so busy incompetently struggling with my coat and trying not to fall over, I didn't register that the people calling "oi love, the baby's slipping out the pram!" we're talking to me until it was too late, and DS2 slowly and gracefully slid down between the seat and the solid bar at the front of the pushchair.

His descent was thankfully gentle and he ended up sitting on his bottom on the ground, completely unharmed, looking up at me like Hmm

Although I did hear the people, they sounded far away and everything went a bit 'grey' - I don't know how else to describe it, but it's how I feel if I'm about to pass out. It's rare for me to have a turn that bad though, just my luck it happened out in public and not at home.

I developed an obsession with checking and re-checking the buggy straps after that!

*Before anyone says "go to the doctor" about the dizzy spells - I have, lots of times, always get sent for bloods which come back normal. I've given up and the episodes have been fewer and less powerful lately. Also the hot flush I get with a dizzy spell isn't meno either, because I've been checked for that too.

Whattodoabout · 11/11/2019 13:05

Accidents happen, they don’t make you a shit parent. I lived in a house with a few stone steps leading up to the front door when DC1 was first born. I turned to put the key in the door and totally forgot to put the break on the pram so it rolled down the stairs and tipped over at the bottom. Luckily it was the carrycot still so he didn’t really move and was absolutely fine, slept through it in fact. I was sleep deprived and just totally forgot the break, never made the mistake again and I think I cried for about an hour over it.

He’s almost ten and definitely unscathed. We all make mistakes, your DD didn’t even get hurt.

Rubychard · 11/11/2019 13:47

Be kind to yourself. Accidents happen.

Chairfail · 11/11/2019 18:52

Thanks all!

Feeling a bit less shit now. Just can’t get the “what If it actually landed on her” out of my head

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BeautifulWintersMorning · 11/11/2019 22:04

You didn't do anything wrong. If the bloke did think your dc was in danger then it was remiss of him not to help you!

BeautifulWintersMorning · 11/11/2019 22:04

Or point it out

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