How should I read this?

[PhrightomenaButterfly]

There's a dad at my DC's school, he has 2 SDC and a DD, he's with their DM, he's been flirting with me, saying I look like Sophia Loren etc.

I'm autistic and married and don't know whether to feel threatened or just laugh it off. How can I tell if he's seriously after me or not?

if you are married ... does it matter? just dont engage with him.

Does it matter? You are married and he is in a relationship/married too

Do you look like Sophie Loren ? I would probably just assume he is being flirty and roll your eyes and tell him he looks like a dick.

My brother flirts all the time and l have to tell him to stop, it embarrass me, his girlfriend and l can think of three women who believed they were going to to leave a party/ night out with him and was shocked to find out he had a girl friend. Some men are such fools AND l don’t know how his lovely girlfriend puts up with him, l wouldn’t.

I feel threatened, so it does matter. As I said, I'm not sure if I'm misreading him as I'm autistic.

Him being in a relationship and me being married just makes it worse, as it seems so inappropriate.

I look like Sophia Loren aged 52, with no makeup and sleep deprived.

If you're uncomfortable tell him to leave you alone as you have enough friends?

I would shoot him down in a war that embarrasses me, but I hate men like him.

Way, not war!

Froggle but what do I say?

On the basis of what you've explained here, anything you say to him is going to sound like an overreaction and probably cause more issues/embarrassment than it solves. Just don't engage with him

rottie you mean not talk to him at all? That might look weird if I talk to the rest of the family though.

Well if you really feel threatened by some mild flirting, you'll either have to blank him or tell him directly to stop it.

Thanks for making feel like I'm overreacting Worra. I'm just worried about his intentions. I can't read him, I'm useless at reading people. If I'm pleasant, will he think it's a green light? Or is he just being friendly? How do people tell?

Just say "Those sort of comments make me uncomfortable". If you have to say this to him on three* separate occasions, he's either stupid or unkind. (I'm giving him some leeway here.)

Well you've stated that you don't know how to read the situation and yes, I do think you're overreacting.

Stop overthinking it and try burying your face in your phone at school pick-up time, or speak to another parent.

He probably has no 'intentions' at all. Some people just like to mildly flirt and there's nothing wrong with that. However, you've said it makes you feel threatened to yes, you either need to limit/cut contact or tell him.

Some situations can make you feel threatened.
Some people can make you feel threatened.
For me, once I feel threatened I stop engaging.
If they approach me and try to talk to me, I ask them to please leave me alone or any variation of that depending on the time.

Feeling threatened should never be considered as an over-reaction.

He's probably just being friendly and isn't aware it's making you uncomfortable. How about you reply with something like " Thanks. My husband looks like [chunky hunky filmstar] "
or " I'm sure you mean well, but I'm married"

Thanks Display, that's very helpful.

Changed he knows I'm married, the filmstar reply might work though. I may also be creeped out because he reminds me of someone else who was creepy. I'm not sure.

I don't think you are over reacting. Why should you have to put up with being made to feel uncomfortable by some sleazy school dad? Maybe a stony silence will get him told?