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I have a doctors appointment tomorrow and I'm nervous

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RunningNinja79 · 10/11/2019 19:01

I made the appointment nearly 4 weeks ago now. I wanted to discuss possible early pre-menopause (I'm 40, but there have been some signs and due to my mum going through menopause early and me starting my periods at 10 I wouldn't be surprised) or possible mental health issues.

The doctor I wanted to see was on leave for a couple of weeks hence why I've had to wait nearly 4 weeks.

I've always been an over thinker and constantly read between the lines of what people say trying to find some hidden meaning. I definitely have social anxiety or at least I feel I do. I put off making phone calls where possible and try to avoid difficult conversations.

Lately I feel I have become more irritable and also my possible anxiety has got worse. I say possible because I have never talked to a health professional about my MH issues. I've wanted to in the past, but always put it off because Im worried about wasting anyone's time or being fobbed off.

I was told 3 times within 24 hours by completely different people that I was in a bad mood. All of these times I thought I was in a good mood and being told I was in a bad mood caught me off guard. This is why I decided to pluck up the courage to make the appointment.

Now its pretty much here I'm really nervous that I have no reason to go and everything I have been thinking and feeling is just normal. I dont want to waste anyone's time. There's the big push towards not using the NHS unless necessary, which I do agree with.

I have been keeping a diary since making the appointment for something to say, but I'm kind of embarrassed to take it. She wont have time to read it all in a 10 min appointment and I feel that I'm just going to leave being no further forward.

Sometimes I wish I was completely broken so I did know for a fact I had a good reason to go. I actually want there to be something wrong so I can get some help. I dont want to come away with nothing, but how do I make sure I get somewhere?

Sorry for ranting, I just wanted to get it out there.

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SophiaLarsen · 10/11/2019 19:26

Take what you have written here and show it to the GP. Good luck

BendingSpoons · 10/11/2019 19:34

You are not wasting anyone's time. What ever is at the root of things for you it is causing you lots of concern and so you need to see someone. I recently went to the GP for a different reason but one I also felt was a bit unnecessary. The doctor said 'you have done the right thing coming' and I felt so much better.

FWIW I think the 'no time wasters' message is aimed at the small minority of people who are often at the GP for things they don't need seeing to or have already been discussed with the GP. Others then doubt themselves.

RunningNinja79 · 10/11/2019 20:51

Sophia I have my diary which has a lot more than what I have said here.

Bending I hope you're right about not wasting time. It's one of the main things that has stopped me before. It is making me doubt it now too. Im just telling myself I haven't seen a doctor for a few years now (have only seen a nurse for the pill repeat or smear test) so surely Im entitled to a one off appointment?

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RunningNinja79 · 11/11/2019 12:02

Not sure if anybody was interested or if it was just the long OP that put people off replying. TBH I was hoping for more than 2 replies, but hey ho. Such is life.

Really nervous. Can I request to be signed off work?

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