What chores do your children have around the home ?

[Vanillamanilla1]

Namechanged as I don't want my daughter seeing my regular username
My daughter has one job ..emptying the dishwasher and clearing the draining board
I've just handed her a dustpan and brush and there were little stone like things by the front door and I asked her to sweep them up for me while I scrubbed the bathroom
She huffed and puffed like she usually does and stared at it like it's a completely foreign object or like I've just asked her to complete a Mensa test
She didn't know HOW to use it ... I lost my shit .... surely it's self explanatory... I blame myself , I should give her more chores but she acts completely helpless all the time ... I think it's a fashionable thing .. she didn't know the difference between shampoo and conditioner the other day and all she seems to say is " I don't understand "
I'm slowly losing patience... all she does is the dishwasher and draining board .... I need to give her more jobs ... I've told her I want her to hoover the house today whilst I'm at work ... she will say she doesn't know how to hoover ... again self explanatory???
Like I say I work 2 jobs and don't really ask for much ...or do I ??

How old is she?

My kids aged between 9 and 5 don't have set chores. However, they do what I ask them to do. Ie will put the washing away once I have done it. Will take things and put them away, will set the table, wipe table etc.
They have done so since toddler age

Put toys/books away
Help me empty dishwasher
Help me put shopping away
Help me locate items during shopping trips (we write a list together)
Help me put away ironed clothes and match up pairs of socks
Help get stuff together when baby needs a nappy change or a bath.

DS's are 4 and 2.

I intend on returning to work in the future so will be asking them to help with more chores as they get older and more capable.

Why are parents always losing their shit?? If you want your kids to do things you have to teach them. They're not mind readers.

Why are parents always losing their shit?? If you want your kids to do things you have to teach them. They're not mind readers.

Do you have children?

It's not just about capability...you're battling against bone idleness most of the time!

Rooms tidy. Bring me their laundry and put it away once done. Wash their own dishes and any others that might be there, clean up their own mess in the bath room. Ds takes the rubbish out if I ask him and sometimes walks the dog. I don't agree with set "chores" I just want them to help out generally with family life and clear up after themselves.

My dd is 4 and she can use a dustpan and brush, I'd probably have to sort the last little bit. Ds is 8 and most definitely can.
They don't have chores but put away their own things help set and clear the table, get their own breakfasts. Put away their own clothes sometimes.

@formerbabe

I have 1 18 month old so not an expert but it wasn't that long ago that my mum would show me how to use things and keep a tidy house. My toddler tidies her room, puts her clothes in the washing basket, nappies in the bin. She can dust with a feather duster... It's not hard to get them into it at a young age.

If you have never showed her how to use it why expect her to know? Anyway DN has helped me with all chores since she was 6. She’s now 8 and has her own specific ones (hoovering our small house, unloading the dishwasher, and making one side dish for dinner every night

If you have never showed her how to use it why expect her to know?

Indeed. Embarrassing and true story here. What used to happen in our house was out of consideration for each other we'd have our bath, empty it, rinse it and start filling with nice bubble bath for the next person. One time my oldest was away so I told youngest to go and run herself a bath. Ten minutes later I found her googling how to do it. She was 9 🤦‍♀️. That was when I knew I had to step my game up with regards to teaching her self care as we'd all just done stuff like that for her without thinking.

DS(14)

Makes his bed
Keeps his room tidy
Puts the bins out
Washes up

Empty dishwasher
Set table
Clear table
Empty bins sort recycling
Chop wood
Empty ash pan and light fire
Help with weeding and leaves
Hoover and clean own bedroom

Been doing most of this since 5 except chopping wood and lighting fire.

DS just reminded me also washes the cars when asked around once a month and cooks the dinner around 2/3 nights a month.