So has he cheated?

[Inadarkroom]

Partner confessed today he’s got warts on his penis.
We haven’t had sex in about five months.
All research suggests warts on the penis can only be a STI.

He’s cheated hasn’t he?
He of course says not.
I can’t quite work it out.....

Are they definitely warts?

@DameFanny that amused me.
I’ll ask him in the morning. How anyone can be so silly about their Heath I don’t know.
Maybe he deserves a burnt knob.
But maybe he doesn’t, guess I’ll have to investigate that bit more.
I’ll get myself checked. Although I’ve never shown signs and no sex (with anyone) in 6m means nothing from what I’ve read, & as some point out could be dormant in me too.

@taybert that’s what i thought. If he’d cheated wouldn’t he be secretive about them as well?

A brief look make me thing they are but I’m no doctor nor do I wish to goggle images of that. He really should be checked.

HPV is so common, the statistic is something like more people have them than not.
It can lie dormant for years or even forever. My friend's husband has them and she doesn't... it's one of those weird things. He could have cheated but he also might not have. There's no way to tell with genital warts.

Just get checked and ensure you get your smear.

He doesn’t want to go to the drs? Tell him to grow the fuck up OP!! You gave birth in front of how many people and he won’t go and show a doctor (who doesn’t give a shit about his knob) his warts. How bloody pathetic!

You can have a blood test for HPV now.

I know I know. It’s utterly stupid. It’s what doctors are for!! They don’t care how many knobs they see.
He just laughed and said he was being a typical man.

I had a clear smear test in March.

If hes volunteered the information and asked for help to be honest I would be surprised if he’d cheated. My experience of infidelity was Exh’s near compulsive secrecy and stonewalling anything even tenuously related to the OW.

Go with your gut though. Has he seemed himself apart from this?

This is the sort of situation where doctors are useful. There’s something called pearly penile papules (yes, really) which are often mistaken for warts. Someone is going to need to google that for it to be useful information. Sorry.

@DameFanny the hpv that can lead to cervical cancer is NOT the same as the hpv that causes warts. Genital warts do not equal cancer.
Just wanted to reassure you there @Inadarkroom

Obviously if he has cheated that’s an different story.

I hope he hasn’t. He needs to go to the clinic!

Personally I’d he had cheated he wouldn’t have told you. He would have gone to the clinic on the quiet it’s. It like he had to make excuses about sex.

On waking this morning I’m going with that it’s unfortunately returned due to medication stress etc.
If anything else suspicious comes up I’ll have to consider cheating.

I’ll going to pester him to checked properly and I’ll go too.

Thanks as always for being a sounding board.

Good for you - he can live, and hopefully his penis will survive too

No not necessarily. They can lie dormant for years and years then flare up again. Go to a clinic and get the suitable treatment and perhaps ask them. But if he’s had them before I’d say it’s more likely to be a fake up.

*flare up

He needs to go the the dr. If he is on something like methotrexate for his skin then he won't be able to combat the virus himself and many medications interact badly with the drug and it sensitises your skin too.

If he doesn't get check out it could get worse and worse. He needs to man up and get checked out ASAP.

They can lie dormant for years and also treated ones can return many years later. (An ex partner was treated years before I met him and warned me that it was the case and something that could return.) whether he cheated isn't possible to know from this alone

Oh and if he treated them last time with otc wart stuff id imagjne more likely they will come back. Exp has them treated by new swanky (back then) laser treatment and was still warned of the possibility they'd come back

Just another perspective, recently friend treated a teen with genital warts. Passed on from the ones on his finger is most likely explanation