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Child’s dad lying

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Noname567 · 07/11/2019 20:11

This is my first post on here, I’m looking for advise from anyone who’s been through similar, sorry if it’s long.

Long story short, I’ve been split from my childs dad a number of years now (divorced). He has always worked away with his job, could be days/weeks/months at a time. I have always wanted to maintain that my child has a good relationship with him so the times they are with their dad has always been flexible about when he’s working away, it’s not a consistent every other weekend if you see what I mean. He usually will tell me in advance what weekends he is free.

My concern is that I’ve suspected for a while he has been lying about working away and not seeing our child and has in fact been putting other things before him - girlfriend. His relationship is no business of mine however he’s recently started to change plans to have our child last minute with far fetched story’s. I caught him out today, originally meant to see our child this week, was told a story about going abroad for a while, pretended he was abroad in the last few days....I drove past him earlier.

My question is, is there anything I can formally put in place through solicitors/mediation to ensure he sees our child on a regular basis without it him being the one who dictates when he can and can’t see him due to work/lying? Or will they just tell me I have to continue being told what’s what by him because of his job?

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Nofunkingworriesmate · 07/11/2019 20:57

He’s a shitty dad and you can’t make him see his child, I know nothing of these situations personally or legally but I suspect the courts can’t make him see his child when he is available either. all respect to you for being flexible and keeping contact going and that is best for your child. Personally I’d keep a detailed record of all broken promises and times you have caught him out as this may be necessary at some point in the future. I’d like to act classy in these type of conflicts and would find a book about the damage absent fathers do or some such and ring his doorbell and silently hand it to him. Goes without saying you do not tell your child and maybe not mention next contact date in case it’s broken, if the crappy dad turns up it’s a nice surprise for child

EstherMumsnet · 07/11/2019 20:58

We're just bumping this for you OP

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