Hi ladies, I’m 39 and have three children. A 5 year old boy and 2 year old twin girls. I have a partner and we own our own home. I had to return to work full time and work shifts in the emergency services. My partner used to work full time but took redundancy early this year. The intention was that he would get another full time job but because he took over the role of sahd this never materialised but now he has a part time job and works two days a week. My boy is at school but my girls are at home as we cannot afford nursery fees and seems pointless at the minute. If we need childcare his parents will come over and help. Generally we sort it amongst ourselves though.
I’m just so tired, if I’m not at work my days off are spent looking after the girls and there’s no let up. They don’t sleep through either so a few times a night we might be up and invariably one twin ends up in our bed. Need to look at sleep training soon (I’ll put it on the never ending list) I work weekends and lates is my partner is often on his own with all three doing bedtime and baths which is very hard on him.
We manage financially but have no savings. I do resent the fact I have to work full time and unsocial hours etc and also want to look to move in a few years as our house is only 3 bedroom and 1 reception room and it’s getting so cluttered it does my head in.
I find myself counting down when all 3 will be in school so I can have a rest! I sound so ungrateful I know and it was my choice to have kids I know. Guess I’m just looking for some understanding and felt like a rant lol!
I look so tired and look a mess as normally I never wear makeup and my hair is always scraped into a bun. What has become of me!!