Steralisation

[Lighteninginabottle27]

I have 2 children both by emergency c section and have a history of pre and post natal depression. I don't want more children. I've asked for a referral to be sterilized but people seem really shocked by this. The thought of falling pregnant again scares me. I have had a termination since my youngest dc was born. I'm in a relatively settled relationship of 1yr. He has no dc and doesn't want them but feels steralisation is quite drastic. I know it's my decision ultimately but just asking for thoughts.

I have recently been sterilised at 26 with 1 child. I am in a relationship with a man who has an older child of his own and this was noted during the consultation phase so don't be surprised if you are met with resistance because of your childless DP.

I also have a history of pre-natal and post-natal depression plus a whole load of other mental health issues. Again, like you, I have had a termination in the last year.

Once I had got the GP to refer me it was actually really easy. I explained the situation to the consultant and he explained the risks then got booked in. I was offered option for a coil instead on the day but was adament I wanted the sterilisation. I was under a GA for 30 mins ish and recovery wasn't bad at all.

I got sterilized later in life, after the second HG pregnancy. Asked the gynecologist about 6 weeks into the pregnancy and it was so clearly the right decision that there was never any further discussion, just arranged it for after I'd recovered enough from the birth.

Absolutely the right decision for me, the peace of mind is so valuable. Recovery took a while, mostly because the anasthetic didn't go all that well. The surgery itself was fine.

I've asked for a referral to be sterilized but people seem really shocked by this

The best thing you can do is to make your own decision about this. Don't ask what other people think - they are not you and they don't know your own situation. It really doesn't matter that "they are shocked" . Sometimes it just confuses the situation when you tell people everything you are doing.

If you've had all the children you want to have, and are determined to have a sterilization, go for it. It was the best thing I ever did , after two children at 26. Once it is done, you never have to worry again. Best wishes with your decision.

Thank you. I'm certain of my decision, I just wondered if I was being blinkered. I love my children but I defo don't want more!

I was sterilised this year. I have two children and had a bit of a fight but it was the best thing for me.

I have terrible pregnancies.