Single and pregnant feeling alone

[Wantadvice2019]

Hi guys.
Anyone got any advice for a pregnant single mum? I have a 3 year old and I’m 33 weeks pregnant, different dads. I feel so lonely and baby’s dad has said he’s trying to already get out of paying as much maintenance by forging his business account/pay. He ignores my calls or texts and is just unreliable. Advice please?

Dude, he's a loser. And hell become even more of a loser once the grunt work kicks in. Not only is he a loser, he's actively trying to ensure your dd doesn't get all of the maintenance he should pay, which makes him a cunt.

I see years of disappointment ahead. Cut your losses now. You'd be insane to put someone like that on the bc.

Congratulations on your pregnancy though, I bet you're a great mum and your children are lucky to have you. Concentrate on that.

Cut off the manipulant.

Do you have enough friends around? Are you able to find time to attend any women group?

Holistic centres are always nice and nice warm ppl there - maybe try to find glng bath in your area?

I advice as well to get refferal to Freedom course - its helping around dealin with stuff after toxic relationships

Well a quick update with my situation. He’s called this morning shouting and swearing on the phone because I said I’ve sought legal advice from a solicitor and spoken to csa about what I’m legally entitled to and what he’s trying to do etc. He obviously didn’t like that and said he’d make my life hell and that was a threat. I said he already is doing to which he replied that I’ve seen nothing yet. There was more shouting and swearing so I said I didn’t need to listen to the swearing and if he continued I’d put the phone down, which I did. He then called back doing the same and I hung up, went on a few times and then he said that he’d kick my head in too.
I’m so glad I met him!!!! Lol
Obviously I’m going to love my baby to bits but I already feel sorry for her and like I’ve let her down not having both parents together in a happy family and a decent dad

Thanks for saying I’m a good mum and the kids are lucky etc I do try my best and everything I do is for them. I just hate letting them down though by it just being me. I’ve stopped my daughter seeing baby’s dad because there is no need, if we have things to discuss or to do then it can be when she’s in bed or with her own dad because her dad has already left us and she doesn’t need her sisters dad walking in and out her life when it suits him. They need stability and someone reliable and that’s not him!

I have some friends around but mainly with young families or single mums so it’s difficult for us to meet in an evening but daytime is ok.
I’m not in any groups but I think I’ll try and find some.
And I’ll look into that Freedom course, thanks for that!!!!
I’m also going to mention to my midwife when I see her tomorrow about what happened and see what she advises

If he has threatened you, you must report it! Report it online if you want and then you can put all the details down. Keep a record of all the calls and texts. Don’t delete them! Please take this further! You are in vulnerable position and this is the last thing you need right now! It will only get worse if you don’t report him right now.

I’m going to talk to my midwife tomorrow because I think they have a duty of care to make sure me and baby are safe and I’ve got a text that says he needs to calm down and the other week I was in A&E because I had a chest infection and he was having a go at me then and then he text the following day to apologise and I’ve kept that too. He has also squared up to my daughters dad and I asked him if needs be will he say what happen and he said he would

101 and document the incident. Record him next time he screams abuse and threatens you. Yes, inform your midwife about the abuse but, also, take responsibility for your own life (and safety!)
I'd cut him off. Don't contact him. You'd be an absolute fool to put on the BC based on what you have written so far but, yes, apply for CMS when time comes.