Sad VS Happy

[QuintessentialShadow]

I feel sad.

My house is ok. My neighbourhood is ok. I have some friends. My children are doing ok-ish. I am reasonably happy at work. I am studying for a PGCE, so busy. I am nearly 47 years old, career changer. I have enough money to get by. No money to splash, broke towards the end of each moth.

I am always feeling tired. I can feel my body age. I dont have the energy I once had. I am not sleeping well. I have been struggling to lose weigh for 17 years. I have little family, mum dead now, father 92 and in a care home. Husband working in Europe somewhere, and he is only home for the weekends. Up at 6 every morning, in bed by midnight. Struggle to shop, cook, clean... The usual. I wish I had the energy to go out for a walk, maybe visit a friend, or go out for a meal or a drink. Or maybe the movies. Blood tests ok, so no underlying health issues. I just cant find the strength to do anything but sit like a zombie and stare. Never find time to exercise
I miss London. But, when I lived in London, I missed Norway, so wherever I live I miss someplace else.
I feel my life is nearly over, and I wish I could live it again and make a few changes. Yet, there is nothing specific to make me sad. Other than really aging and never making anything of my life. Never achieving anything good, and not doing anything that gives me joy.

I think Happiness must be to NOT have any regrets.

I'm sorry you feel this way. Not being flippant, but 6 hours' sleep isn't very much - could you increase it or does your lifestyle prevent it?

Even though my dc are now teens, I struggle to get them to bed, and it takes a while from I start doing evening chores until I manage to get them and myself to bed.

I am not a doctor but you sound depressed to me. Have you thought about having a chat with your doctor? Could it be early menopause or a hormonal imbalance?

Can you remember a time when you did not feel like this?

What things do you enjoy doing? What makes you feel calm and relaxed and happy?

Sorry you feel like this, could it be a symptom of perimenopause?

A friend of mine felt similar and her GP recommended exercise - she felt too tired but once she started, her symptoms improved.

Make sure your diet is decent, take some multi vitamins, get plenty of sleep - get the teens to help out with a few chores so it's not left solely to you and get outside for a walk EVERY day, whatever the weather.

Also consider a SAD lamp, these can be beneficial.

Take Care.

Gosh you sound down. And absolute knackered. I’m the things that stood out of your post:

You are working and studying to become a teacher - PGCEs are extremely hard work
Your DH is away all week and you are keeping the family going on your own.
You have no family support: in fact you have your father to think about (even if it’s not hands on care).

And you are doing this on 6 hours sleep a night! I’d be knackered and depressed too!

Something needs to give OP. Does your DH have to work away? Can you get things a bit more organised / outsourced at hone to ease your workload?

Taking concentrace and coral calcium from the Caribbean not japan, nascent iodine and ionic selenium and vit d3 with k2 have been a game changer for me

Even though my blood results are magnificent

6 hours sleep is not enough though op
You need to be settled in bed by 9-30 asleep by 10
Kids will have to put themselves to bed
My son was about 9 when I gave up trying to she horn him into bed

( he turned out fine and he’s 38 now)

Shoe horn

Your symptoms sounds extremely like perimenopause to me. That shattered, faintly worried, lethargy, ruminating over how life could have been.

I will PM you.

I feel the same OP. Really similar. I have been going to the gym every day and I feel more positive and energised. One day last week I was so depressed I didn't get up.

OP, I have sent you a message.

@Dowser - is K2 a vitamin?