I got some great support from MN. I thought I’d share a success. MNetters with ASD/experience of it may “get this”.
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but worried about needing to ask again. Concentrating on
My physical disability means at times I need help, but very often my ASD means I have even spent time in a lot of pain just so I don’t have to ask for help. I hate being disabled and asking for help highlights it (to me - other person will have better things to think about). Then mix in not having a clue about unstructured conversation.
Today I actually managed to try to get help twice. First time was at work, and it was successful. second time to try to get help to change a light bulb. I knocked on the doors of the other flats, except one where I could hear a piano lesson. No one actually answered, but I did try, after much self talk.
I was crying afterwards (privately) - mixture of happiness at trying and partly relief no answer, sadness no one answered, worry I have to try again. Overall though