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What would you do - feeling guilty.

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QueenAnneBoleyn · 05/11/2019 08:24

WWYD. Feeling torn about this.
DH and I have DD who is two and a half.
We’re both shift workers.
DH is full time. Following the birth of DD I changed to part time but stayed in my role.
Long story short, I’m so unhappy in my job.
Upper management have made a lot of changes to the role and the stress levels just aren’t manageable. A lot of colleagues I’ve worked with for years felt the same and have now moved on and the team isn’t what it was.
I want to change department but still stay within my organisation for the purposes of pension and maternity leave package (as we’re thinking of trying for baby #2 next year).
No other part time roles are currently available.
I’ve applied for a couple of full time roles and have interviews in the next fortnight.
I feel so guilty about possibly returning to work full time and not having as much time with DD.
My dilemma - do I stay in my current role where I’m miserable but still have that time with my DD or do I go for the full time role where I’m (hopefully) happier in my work, better off financially and make the most of evenings and weekends with DD?
I’ve tried talking to DH about how guilty I feel going for a full time role and he just says DD will be fine - he doesn’t get why I’m feeling guilty.
If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading and please offer any wise words you may have.

OP posts:
Surfskatefamily · 05/11/2019 18:54

I'd personally stay part time for the moment as if your planning your next child very soon you'll be off for maternity not that long in the future. Then make changes after that. I'm thinking this as it would be great to have that time you have as one on one mum and dd too

This is only how I would probably deal with it ..and not a criticism if you decide job change is better for you

KatyN · 05/11/2019 19:07

You apply for a ft role and negotiate it to pt when they offer it to you.
Legally they have to consider any request for pt working once you’ve been in post for 6 months so you’re just moving it forward for them.

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